I know letters like this are overused and it may seem kind of cheesy to write a letter like this, but this is sometimes the best way for some people to cope with some situations that they may be going through in life. Whether they lost friendships, going through a heartbreak, or broken relationships with family members, and whether it happened recently, or whether it happened not so recently, a person could end up still being emotionally hurt for a long time after the situation had already happened. I know for me, writing letters to someone who has hurt me or wronged me in some way or another, whether they realized that they were hurting me or not, and whether they were intentionally trying to hurt me or did it accidentally, has helped me to cope with what happened between me and the person. Being able to get my feelings off of my chest, even if I end up not giving the letter to the person or end up telling them how I felt about the situation, it just relieves all of the built up terrible emotions that I feel about the situation. I normally wouldn’t post a letter like this publicly, but with seeing how much I was hurting with some of what I have gone through in the past, and also seeing friends who have gone through similar situations also hurting, I thought that posting something like this could end up bringing me closure, and could end up helping others to start on a path to getting the closure that they may need as well. This is my open letter to all of the guys who I’ve ever fallen in love with who ended up not feeling the same way about me, causing me to end up with a broken heart.

To All The Guys I’ve Ever Fallen In Love With,

I want to start off by thanking you, not only for being a part of some chapter in my life, but for teaching me some sort of life lesson. I know it may seem weird and out of the ordinary for me to be thanking you for something like a heart break, but you have been a big part of making my life so much better in some way or another. I have learned so much about myself and what I look for in a guy. I have found out that some of the items that I thought I wanted in a guy wouldn’t bet the best for me in order for the relationship to end up lasting. I also found out that a lot of the qualities that I thought that I wouldn’t want in a relationship with a guy would end up being a beneficial part of a relationship in order for the relationship to be able to last. I have eliminated so much stress on myself by realizing that not being able to find the right guy for me at this point in my life isn’t my fault, is probably for the best, and also will make meeting the right guy, when the time does come, so much better. The right guy for me is out there somewhere, and it will be an amazing day when I finally meet him. He is out there bettering himself to become the best that he can be, just like I am doing right now, so not only can he live the best life for himself, but also so that he can become the best husband that he can be for me as well. Even though I have felt on a few different occasions that I had found the guy that could end up being the one for me, I realize the only thing I was able to find out was that I am capable of still becoming stronger as a person, and stronger in my faith, as well as growing closer to God with my relationship with God. When I have fallen in love with a guy, or when I thought that I had fallen in love, then ended up with a broken heart in the end, I realized that instead of worrying about the guy that I had fallen in love with, and fall more in love with God and remember that God will let the right guy step into my life when the time is right. I wasn’t as in love with God and wasn’t as strong in my faith as I probably should have been, and wasn’t striving towards the person that God was wanting me to be. I was more focused on the guy that I thought that I had fallen in love with and how I could possibly end up being the best girl for him. I want to thank the guys who I have fallen in love with, or thought that I had fallen in love with, for helping me to realize that I need to start putting God first and keep remembering that God has a plan for me and for my life, including letting the right guy walk in to my life at exactly the right time. Thank you for helping me to start growing even more in my faith and pushing me in the direction that I need to be going with my faith and relationship with God.

I also want to thank you for helping me with being able to focus better on my studies and helping me to want to strive more towards getting better grades. In the few days right after I get my heart broken, instead of showing my true feelings to the world around me (which wouldn’t necessarily be a terrible thing if I did, but just isn’t want I feel comfortable with doing), I end up binge working on all of the homework that I end up accumulating throughout the semester that I end up having to do. I take all of my feelings, and use them to frustratingly do the massive amounts of homework that I have. I take my focus off the hurt of a heartbreak, and I put all of my focus on my studies. I end up getting better grades on the assignments that I end up doing within the first few days after a heartbreak because I end up focusing a lot more on the assignments and spend more time on them than I would have if I wasn’t going through a break up and wanting to take my focus off of the hurt. I’m not saying that a heartbreak is the best way for me to be able to get the best grades that I can possibly get at all times, but there are times where it has been really helpful to my grades to be going through a heartbreak.

To the guys who I have fallen in love with in my life, thank you for also helping me to prepare myself for my future husband. When I fell in love with you, I felt like I was able to truly see who I was as a person, and I could also see who I wanted to be in the future to make myself the best wife that I could be. I felt like I was able to see myself in a lifelong relationship with someone and I felt like I was able to slowly but surely start to dream about how I wanted my future to end up being like. When I was dreaming about what the future could potentially end up looking like, I was able to start the somewhat slow process of trying to become more mature and starting to do the best that I can do to get myself ready for adulthood. I have been able to start to become more mature as a person, though it is something that I am still working on, I have been working on trying to become the best employee that I can be at the job that I currently have, and I have been working really hard at my education so that I can end up having the best job that I can get later in life. I have been looking at all of the aspects of my life and have been trying to do the best that I can to slowly but surely fix as many of my flaws as I am able to do. I am trying to become the best person that I can become, not only for my future husband, but also for myself. I am striving to become the kind of person who loves God more than she loves herself and her future husband, then loves herself and her husband almost as much as she loves God.

I want to apologize to those who I have fallen in love with who I may have pushed away because I let my feelings get the best of me. I have been trying to work on not pushing people away just because I feel like I have fallen for them. I am still learning what kind of behavior is acceptable for a person to have when it comes to relationships and friendships and where to draw the line. I am still learning how to be able to control what I feel about a person and how I go about handling how I feel. I am still learning how to be the best person that I can be, be the best friend that I can be, and how I can improve on all aspects of my life. I may not always handle situations in the best way possible, and sometimes I may need guidance with getting my life together. I pray every day that I will be able to pull myself together and better myself the best that I can. I pray every day that I will be able to make better decisions about how I go about handling how I feel about a person. I pray every day for my future husband, that he is able to reach his full potential at everything that he does. But thank you to the guys who I have fallen in love with for helping me to realize that I can become a better person and that the guy who is right for me will end up walking into my life at the right time that God wants him to walk into my life.