Hey,
It's just me again. I just wanted to know if everything was OK.
Let me start with this -- I'm a very open person. You said you are too. And I believed that. But now I'm not so sure.
We had a great date last night. Things went well, we both got a little tipsy, and maybe we took things a little too far for a first date. But it was all in good fun and we were both comfortable. You said you would call me and I left with a smile on my face thinking maybe I finally found a decent guy.
I waited the entire day for you to call me since I gave you my number, but you didn't give me yours in return. Night came and I still hadn't heard from you. And I was instantly crushed. I drowned my tears in mixed drinks, McDonald's and "Grey's Anatomy."
I'm not the only girl that has been in this situation. Why do we allow ourselves to fall so easily for somebody only to find ourselves shoveling ice-cream into our mouths like it's the last tub on Earth? Why do we listen to "All By Myself" over and over again because we made the same mistake yet again?
You said you were an open person. So if you didn't like the date or you didn't like something about me, why didn't you just tell me? The worst feeling in the world is the feeling of being left in the dark. When you don't call back, you leave us girls wondering if we did something wrong. And for somebody like me who struggles with anxiety and self-image to begin with, it makes it even harder. We, as women, immediately turn on ourselves. "What did I do wrong?" "Should I try to call him instead?" "What if I scared him away?" For us, even a call back to tell us that you're not interested anymore is better than just leaving us in the dark.
To the guy who didn't call back -- you broke my heart. You probably don't even know it because for you it was just one night of fun and then on to the next day. But for me, it was more than that. It takes a lot for me to open up to somebody like that and the fact that I trusted you enough to tell you things that nobody else knows is a big deal for me. For you to not call back and even intentionally blow me off the next day is so hurtful.
To the guy who didn't call back -- speaking for all women, we're upset. We aren't even angry, we're just hurt.
To the guy who didn't call back -- please don't hurt other people like you've hurt me. I don't wish this kind of pain on anybody else.
To the guy who didn't call back -- I forgive you. Even though I'm hurting, I understand that you have your reasons and I'm not going to hold resentment in my heart. It'll only hurt me in the end.
Sincerely,
The girl you never called.
