I think the scariest parts about relationships are the "what ifs"— the constant wonder of what might come. You never know what is to happen the next day, the next night, or even the next hour. One day they love you, and care about you, and the next they leave you and try to justify it with an apology. That's just how it goes some times. If you're anything like me, you spend your nights (and sometimes days) wondering “what if.” What if he finds someone new, what if he breaks my heart, what if he leaves, what if he stops talking to me, what if.
You see, girls like us notice EVERYTHING. And by everything, I mean we notice anything from the slightest change in your body language, to a difference in the way you text us. We’re so paranoid about being left alone and heartbroken in the dark, that we freak out anytime something changes. Maybe it doesn't even change, maybe we just think it does. Those “what ifs” have been pounded into our head so hard, we can’t escape them. You tell us to “trust you” and that, “you wont hurt us” and honestly, that's something we would love to do more than anything. We would love to trust you so easily; we would if we could. But we can’t. Its nothing you did, it all goes back to how hurt we’ve been in the past. There's nothing to do but wait. Did you hear me? Do I need to say it again? There is nothing to do but wait. PATIENTLY. Ladies, if he cannot wait for you to trust him, HE DOES NOT DESERVE YOUR TRUST. If he cannot wait for you to love him, HE DOES NOT DESERVE YOUR LOVE. Point. Blank. Period.
Now, sometimes, us girls miss out on something that could be awesome, because we’re afraid to trust you, or let ourselves be hoary with you, even after all this time. Ladies: If there's something that has even the slightest chance of making you happy, GO FOR IT. Take that risk!! Life is WAY too short to “play it safe.” Those “what ifs” are going to be in your head forever. PUSH PAST THEM FOR ONCE DAMN IT. Do what YOU want! Trust faster than usual, love too deeply, fall too hard. Sometimes it’s going to hurt like hell, but you know what? It is OKAY to cry. It is OKAY to hurt. It is OKAY to get knocked down. It is NOT OKAY to stay down. You are not defined by how many times you get knocked down; you are defined by how long you stay down. It’s going to hurt. You might lose him. But whatever you do, DO NOT lose the lesson it taught you. The possibilities will always be there; Always, no matter what. But remember— not all possibilities are bad.
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Just in time to refill your fall Netflix queue.
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And she will be, too.
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Tested and loved by carnivores and herbivores alike.
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Trust the people who've been there.
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There are a few things I've found to be mostly universal in theory (if not in full thought) from the person going through a tough time. I hope this brings some understanding and perspective for the next time you have a sit down with someone you care for.
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Everyone knows someone who has polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS). Maybe you don't know that you know, but with 10% of women in the United States having the autoimmune disease, it's more common than you'd think. The hormonal hell that many of these women go through is not only painful, but it's exhausting, with too few answers thanks to a lack of research and consistency.
This lack of research makes the disease rather "trial and error" for many women, as everyone's case is different and requires them to figure things out based on experimentation. Thankfully, the women of the world are good at fixing problems. While PCOS has caused me a lot of hurt, I've been blown away by the women I've met who continue to tackle this battle head-on, one day at a time.
We need to learn how to support politicians without idolizing them.
OK, listen, I also think Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez is cool. I had an Elizabeth Warren sign in my dorm room for a while. I'm currently interning for a congressional candidate. I'm very invested in politics. And supporting and liking certain politicians over others is a part of being invested in politics.
She pioneered the sexual wellness movement.
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I didn't even know what PCOS was until I was diagnosed.
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1. Alondra, Florida Gulf Coast University
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