I’ve been there. You’re feeling confused and in a slump because you have no idea when it happened. Life got busy, you got overwhelmed, and you started to lose yourself in the midst of everything else going on in your world. The moment when you started noticing that you where beginning to lose sight of yourself, it seemed like such a big deal. You keep telling yourself that you can fix it later, reevaluate things later, get back on track later but right then, there were bigger fish to fry. In theory that could have worked, but there was always going to be bigger fish to fry and you never got around to finding yourself.

Eventually things began to slide. You began to let yourself get away with things you never would have before. You let others walk over you and treat you like you were something less of the queen you knew you were. Now you’re stuck feeling lost with no idea of how to get back to who you were because life won’t pause while you look for the girl you once knew. Honestly, she’s long gone. She got swept away in the chaos of life and everything you’ve been through here recently would have broken her anyways. It’s okay to not be her anymore, but that doesn’t mean that you will always feel this down.

You get to find yourself again! It isn’t easy and it is going to take a lot of time, energy and tears because reflecting on yourself means acknowledging both the good and the bad. You have to be fully honest with yourself about who you are and who you want to be. Being that honest with yourself is one of the bravest things you can do, and not many will, but once you are you can finally rebuild. You can finally find the person you’re looking for, the person you’ve been this whole time. You become the person that those closest to you have always believed you could be.

You may think it’s selfish, to spend so much time doing nothing but worrying about yourself but there is no reason to feel bad. It is okay to be selfish, it is okay to love yourself enough to take care of your own needs before you start trying to help others because a broken person will never be able to heal those around her. You have to make yourself a priority. You’ve got to remember that you won’t always be this lost girl, you just have to give yourself time. You were once strong, confident, and unstoppable. You will be again. You’re a fighter, you’re a queen and once you see that in yourself no one can touch you.