“He’s not your forever, and that’s ok. He was a lesson that you needed for later in life.”
The relationship you never thought would end is now over and you don’t know what to do with yourself. I get it, I’ve been there and I am here to tell you that it gets better. As cliché as that sounds it really does get better. When you’re finally on your own again after so long, you learn so many things that you didn’t even know you could do before. Discovering who you are all over again is the number one thing. After being with someone for so long you sometimes forget who you are, so when you have the chance to become your own person again and be happy while doing it, take it and live the life the you would be proud to call yours.
To some people, being single again after having someone to love and call yours for so long, means the end of the world, but when you look at it from a different perspective, it’s really not the end all be all that you believe it truly is. Being single opens up so many more doors that being in a relationship probably ever could. You don’t have to live by anyone’s rules or expectations, you only have yourself to impress. Learning to love yourself all over again may be one of the hardest things that has to happen, but it is a necessary process to go through in order to be sincerely happy. Learning to love yourself, believe it or not, begins with you. At the end of any relationship, there will always be that period of time where you believe nothing is going to go right, you will never find someone to love you like he did, or you don’t know what to do now that you are on your own because it has been so long since you were really without someone. From experience, I can tell you that, things will go right, and you will find someone again, you can do things on your own, and you will do them better than you ever thought possible.
Whenever you want to turn back on the progress you have made to forget him and be happy and cave back into the one that broke you, think about the progress you have made since he left, and think about how happy you are, without him there all the time. Being in that relationship was probably one of the best experiences you’ve ever had and you couldn’t—wouldn’t change it for the world. It taught you so much about yourself and about who you want to be, but it wasn’t the right relationship. It wasn’t your forever relationship and that’s ok, because out there somewhere is someone a million times better, waiting for you to find them. When you finally do find that person, you won’t remember what happened in the last relationship you had, or what you fought about, but you will remember the lessons you have learned and the happiness that it brought you, but being with the right person, whenever that day comes, will show you that you can be even happier than you ever imagined.
