An Open Letter to the Dad I Don't Need

An Open Letter to the Dad I Don't Need


I'm almost 22 years old, I do not need you now. That's right, you may have missed the terrible two's and bratty teenage years, but it seems I still have an attitude and an anger problem I no doubt got from you. I'm not holding grudges, or resent you like I should. I really have no feelings when it comes to you. You decided I did not get the chance to know you. You may blame my mom or even blame me and my brothers, but the only person that the blame belongs to is you.

Do you know what its like to feel like you are not good enough for one of your parents? I have felt like this for as long as I can remember. Since I was a little girl I never understood why he at least didn't try and give me the choice, if I wanted him in my life. I should have been an aloud an opinion. But he just disappeared.

Today I do not want to be upset or think I am not good enough for him. I want to thank him for giving me a better life. A life without him.

This is a poem I wrote for him:

I never got the chance,
To be your little girl,
To be daddy’s girl,
To be your baby.

I never got the chance,
To tell you I loved you,
Before my first breath,
You decided my fate.

I never got the chance,
To hear your voice,
To hold your hand,
To be held so tight.

You decided I didn’t get a chance,
To be your little girl,
To know I was loved,
Not by anyone but by you.

I never got a chance,
To introduce you,
To my friends,
Or first boyfriend.

I never got the chance,
To hug you.
When did you decide?
You did not want your baby.

I never got the chance,
To run to you when I was scared,
Wipe away my tears,
Calming me down.

I never got the chance,
To even say goodbye,
In my life you never gave me a chance,
To decide my own fate.

I never got the chance,
You walked away,
Right out of my life,
No second glances.
I never got a chance.

To ask you to stay,
To tell you we will be fine,
You have me and I have you.

If I got the chance,
Would I actually want you to stay?
How would it change my life?
No more what ifs.

If I got the chance,
I would tell you everything you missed,
From my first word,
To my graduation day.

If I got the chance,
I would have asked you to leave,
I was better off without you,
I never needed you.

He was never in my life and I use to be sad and upset for me. Now I feel bad for him because me and my two brothers were raised by a single parent, with the help of my grandparents and we turned out pretty good.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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The Thank-You Your Parents Deserve For The Sacrifices They've Made

Sadly, this is one they've never heard.


We're getting into that stage of our lives. The one where you are away from home or starting to distance yourself, but the relationship between you and your parents is strengthening. College has taught me the value of my parents. Their value is more than the money their bank account and how often they were able to make it to high school soccer games. It's so much deeper than that.

If you have EVER fought with your parents, you've heard the phrase "You'll understand someday when you're a parent." What an excuse, right? No, not really. Being a parent is hard; it's something that I couldn't even imagine doing now or in the next five years.

Since college, I've grown so much closer to both my parents and honestly it's one of the best things that has happened to me. In high school, I was the definition of a hormonal teenager. Fighting with my dad every day and ignoring my mom when the walk got hard. Now, I call them to tell them what kind of smoothie I got for lunch. College taught me how to make not just more of a father/mother-son relationship, but a friendship with my parents. That's not what I'm here to thank them for, though.

I'm thankful for the sacrifices. There's so many that I don't know about, but I know they exist. Working countless hours to give my brother and me what we want or even sacrificing their own happiness for me is something that I can't comprehend yet. I know that being a parent is hard and that sacrifices are in call but being a parent is a full-time job. I've come to realize that a lot of my parent's lives got put on the backburner because they wanted to give me the best life possible, but I have to recognize the sacrifices.

I have been so blessed to have an amazing life. I've been provided for, and my parents have busted their butts to make sure I had everything possible to make me happy. Not just material things; they gave me all of the opportunities possible to succeed in life. They've skipped events with their friends to spend time with me while I'm home from college, even if it's us sitting in the living room on our phones all night.

Mom and Dad, I appreciate you more than you know. The words that I've written are just a quarter of the love and appreciation I have for you — words cannot describe how I feel. Thank you for all of the sacrifices you've made for me. I know I am where I'm at right now because of the hard work you've put into me, and I hope that I can make you proud.


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