Dear “College Kid” (I use this phrase lightly),
You are most likely at least 18 years old and still stuck in that high school cycle of drama. You may be a college student academically, but socially, you’re still in high school.
To begin, stop with the social media slams. “Subtweeting” or “subgramming” or subblogging” or whatever passive aggressively talking about others on social media is called these days is just down right stupid. It isn’t going to make anybody feel better. In fact, it’s just going to hurt people. Don’t do it.
Stop talking about people behind their backs. Whether it be through text, Facebook chat, or in person, it’s going to get back to that person eventually and you know that. If you have a problem with somebody talk to them IN PERSON like the adult you are. Don’t play these childhood telephone games.
Most importantly, stop bringing outsiders into your drama. If you have drama with one person, or a couple of people, keep it between just the people involved. It is unnecessary to bring others into the mix and have them choose sides because it puts pressure on them as well as more pressure on you. Also, you wouldn’t want others turning people against you, so why should you be turning people against others? Keep it between yourselves.
So far I have told you how to deal with your drama in the most adult way, but if we’re being honest, what is there to have drama about in the first place? We’re college students. We go to class, study, sleep, party, have fun, etc. College is supposed to be the time that we make friends that we’ll keep forever. It’s supposed to be the time that we do crazy things that we’ll someday tell our grandchildren about. There’s no reason to spend these precious years fighting with your friends and caught up in dumb drama.
After these four years of college, you will be out into the real world. In the real world people aren’t going to take the time to tolerate petty drama. We are adults now and we need to start acting like them.
Sincerely,
The Girl Who Left High School When She Graduated
