Dear Chelsea,
I'm done. I'm done with everybody's vision of what I should be doing with my life. I'm tired of acting like everybody else actually has a say in the matter, when in reality they don't. Without the constant violation of everybody's input, I need to figure out what I want and what I need in order to achieve MY goals. I want to dream big. I want the best outcome for myself. I want a fulfilled life. I need time. I need space. I need clarity. At the end of the day it is my life and no one else's, so everybody needs to hold their questions, comments and concerns and redirect them towards their own lives.
I already put so much pressure on myself to succeed. I'm constantly questioning myself with inquiries like, "How can I do better?", "What am I doing wrong?" and "Do I even have a backup plan in case things don't work out as I've planned?" Because let's face it, life doesn't always go your way, it can be a little messy and a little heavy at times. Ralph Marston once said, "Don't lower your expectations to meet your performance. Raise your level of performance to meet your expectations. Expect the best of yourself, and then do what is necessary to make it a reality." Life is all about trials and tribulations, but it is also about conquering and reward. You cannot live in a constant fear of failure, but you must live in a constant state of excitement for what's yet to come.
Don't ever let somebody tell you that your dreams are too big. The only person's expectations and comments that should count are the ones that you hold for yourself. You know yourself the best. You know your strengths, your weaknesses, your limits and your passion, so whatever anybody else thinks shouldn't matter. I know it is easier said than done to block out everybody's commentary, but think of how amazing you are going to feel when you prove all of the negative Nelly's in your life wrong.
I know that you are full of potential and have the drive, dedication and commitment that it takes to do whatever you decide upon. Just stay focused and block out everybody's criticisms while you only have eyes for the finish line that is your future; you are your worst critic, so what everybody else says does not matter. This is your life and only your expectations of yourself should make the strides towards your dreams.
This is your moment. Enjoy it while it is happening and don't let it all just pass you by in a haze of stress and anxiety. Don't every stop believing in yourself and remember: Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars.
Love,
Future Chelsea
