Hello.
It’s me.
I know you like my best friend and all, but here’s the deal, buddy…if you hurt her, I hurt you. As cliché as that is, I am being serious. She’s gone through enough heartache in these past six or so months and she doesn’t need to go through any more. I’ve been there for her through all of what her ex put her through and I can’t stand seeing her cry. I seriously will not let it happen as much as it did in her past relationship. As her best friend, I can tell when she’s upset and I will find out if it has to do with you.
The cupcake phase is the most exciting phase. You two are still getting to know every little thing about each other and it's wonderful, right? In the cupcake phase you do everything you can to get her to fall in love with you. But once she does, my friend, that doesn't mean stop doing what you did to get her there in the first place. In her past, once she was out of the cupcake phase, things changed instantly. They stopped doing the cutesy things that new couples do for each other and that's part of why those relationships failed. You have to remind her each and every day why she chose to fall in love with you.
The minute I see signs of her relationship with you becoming toxic, I will do anything I can to warn her. Her last relationship was tragic and some of the things he did to her made me want to punch him. He controlled her wardrobe, her social media, her life, and I won’t let her relationship with you be like that. You are her boyfriend, not her father, and you don’t deserve to act like anything more than her boyfriend. I will not support you in treating her like she is your property. I know love is blind and, now, she does too.
With that being said, I love seeing you two together. Seriously. She’s a whole new person and you’re a million times better than her old boyfriend. She’s actually happy when she’s around you and when she’s not. She found herself and then she found you, and now she so much better than she was six months ago. You just enhance her happiness to its fullest point and that makes me happy. You two make such a great match. Y’all actually have a connection that comes naturally to the both of you, and I can see that as an outsider in your relationship.
Although you haven’t said it yet and neither has she, I can see that the love is real in your relationship. I seriously can’t wait to see how your relationship blossoms and I can’t wait to hear all about how happy she is because of you. You two make such a perfect match. I wish you many years of happiness!
