Dear freshmen girls in college,
It's okay if you don't know what you want to do with the rest of your life. Most of you are barely even adults. This idea you have that you need to have your entire future planned out already is entirely ridiculous. You are still in the process of figuring out who you are as a person. Your likes and dislikes, what kind of people you want to surround yourself with, what you want in a boyfriend, do you want to get married and have kids? Do you plan on focusing on your career? Do you even want to be in college? There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a stay at home mom if that's what you truly want. You don't need to have the future entirely figured out. There is something enchantingly frightening about have your future wide open to possibilities. You've just finished high school. You've had eighteen years of your planned out for you. Some of you never had to wonder if college was going to happen. Some of you probably have. Regardless of which group you fit into, always remember that college is a privilege. There are so many people who will never have the chance to further their education like you do. Don't take it for granted. This is your chance to take random classes to find what you are interested. However, this doesn't mean you should spend two years wasting time until you have to declare a major. You will have plenty of time to enjoy yourself, but you are there to learn. You are there to better yourself as a person.
Be smart about college. Don't pick a major you hate because you will make a lot of money. Don't study something you have no interest in; it will only make you miserable.
If you can't get through the intro class, you won't be able to get through four years of a major you hate. If you don't care about what you are studying, then you won't want to study it. You will most likely end up hating your classes and hating college. There is no right way to have your college experience. There is just your way. Don't let anyone make you feel bad if you don't want to party. Don't let anyone make you feel bad if you decide to join a sorority. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about a major you love. You need to learn to take criticism now because these are your last few years before you enter the real world. Unfortunately, the real world isn't very nice. You need to learn to respect others and their opinions. Most things in life aren't black and white. You need to learn that just because someone thinks differently from you doesn't mean their opinion is wrong. It doesn't mean your opinion is wrong either though. Don't chase after people who aren't worth it. You aren't in high school anymore; you really don't need to be friends with awful people.. Find you tribe, your clan, your posy, your crew, your people. I promise that as long as you are doing what you love you will find those people. Remember to use your freshmen year to find yourself but at the same time use it wisely.
