Emotional abuse is by no means physical abuse...But it is close and can actually be worse at times.
“I don’t like that on you, it's ugly.”
“I don’t like your friends, I want you all to myself.”
“Stop being so childish, this is all your fault,” (When you didn’t even do anything).
“If you do that I won't talk to you for the rest of the week, go ahead, do it.”
“Stop being so sensitive, you brat.”
“You’re seriously not even beautiful in that, I don’t know why you even wear that.”
Noticing the signs of your relationship turning into this isn't always so quickly to know for yourself. Please notice when your friends tell you that you are being abused, it does not always been physically. They may not hit you, they may not say the quotes above, but they may still be abusive. If you are feeling more trapped than happy and laughing, then maybe you yourself need to notice the signs. Listed below are some things your partner, or even your friend may be doing. Please notice the signs:
- Constantly pointing out your flaws.
- Telling you where you can go and when you are allowed to leave.
- Telling you who you can and can not talk to.
- They blame YOU for their mistakes and unhappiness.
Honey, you may think this is love but oh, are you so wrong...
Love should make you smile, feel alive again; like no one can harm you.
Growing up, we all think these things won’t ever happen to us, they only happen to that random stranger on the side of the road you saw or in a movie. First off, being in a relationship and struggling with emotional abuse, is totally different than being a witness to it. You will constantly apologize and think every little thing is your fault, even when you did nothing. You fear that you can’t text your friend for help because if your partner sees it, they may scream at you for hours. You fear that every step you take may not be perfect enough for them or even the smallest breath you take may mess up their daily pattern. You worry about them more than you worry about yourself because you know getting screamed at feels heavier than that sinking feeling in your own heart. There is nothing wrong with someone being worried and protective of you... To a certain point. Your partner should NOT make you feel like you can’t breath without asking them if its okay first. If you are crying more than you are smiling, you need to seek help immediately. If your friend is telling you they are worried for your health, please listen. If your partner threatens that they will harm themselves if you leave, I beg you... PLEASE do not feel like it is your fault. No matter how many times you’ve sat in your bed at night crying in a ball while your partner is sound asleep, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. If your partner is constantly depressed and blames it all on you, and you believe that you can’t do nothing right, you are absolutely wrong. Do the right thing and please walk out that door faster than you walked in it. I promise you, it will not be easy, you think you love this person, you probably do... But please, love yourself and your worth first. You are important. You are here for a reason. You are not the problem. You deserve to be happy and feel wanted. You deserve to be you. You are beautiful.
Love,
A survivor
