I Am A Millennial And I Am Embarrassed Of My Generation

I Am A Millennial And I Am Embarrassed Of My Generation

How long will it take for us to realize?
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As I have reflected back on my first year of college, I think about the crazy parties, all-nighters spent at the library, and the random/weird things we would do. At the same time, I look back on my experience as a whole and think about what I have learned. Obviously, I learned a lot in my classes, but I believe I have learned more socially than academically. This past year was an eye opener, but I cannot take it any longer holding in how I have felt about my generation, and I believe it’s time to make a change.

One of the first things I had noticed socially is that everyone is scared to be social. Scared to not try new things, or scared to talk to someone. People are scared that things will be awkward, and to "avoid awkwardness" they sit on their phones (which is even more awkward). You literally have to throw yourself out there. People are too scared to face their fear of people. Hiding behind a phone or computer screen will do nothing to help you be more social.

The attitudes of people in my generation are also appalling. Everyone thinks they are entitled, and that the world will serve them, and they don’t have to lift a finger. Well, guess what, IT DOESN’T! In all honesty, the odds are never really in your favor.

Millennials think that they will automatically have the perfect job, or be rich right away. They look down their noses at others that are less fortunate. Mommy and Daddy won’t be there forever to pay for everything. For example, when I was a freshman in high school, I was sitting next to this girl in class. I tried talking to her but she looked me up and down and had a disgusted look on her face (Probably because I wasn’t wearing head to toe Lulu Lemon like she was) but still, IT LITERALLY DOESN’T MATTER IF I’M WEARING FANCY CLOTHES OR NOT, that doesn’t define who I am, or who anyone is. So many people judge on material things at my age, and it’s literally all about the brand when in reality, it isn’t.

Along with the judgment made on others, comes poor relationships. It could be a friendship, a romantic relationship, or a family member, it seems that 99 percent of the time people treat each other poorly. I know everyone else has experienced a falling out of a friendship, or a horrible relationship, and obviously, some annoying family members, but I am finding myself questioning if there really is good in people.

I only see it in a handful of people in my life that genuinely care, and the rest are almost irrelevant now. I’ve been burned too much in friendships and relationships, and I pray to God that someday those people will open their eyes.

While relationships aren’t quite real anymore, here comes along the sleeping around. Obviously, this comes with being in college and everyone goes a little crazy and that’s fine if you don’t go too crazy. But the amount and lack of self-respect, and respect for others, really disgusts me.

Don’t get me wrong, embrace the single life, but if you’re sleeping with 26 people in a semester, that might be a problem. You don’t develop the best reputation, and it seems that you invest more time in that, rather than school, or being successful if you go too far. Have fun with it, but have some self-respect, and remember why you are really here in the first place.

As much as we are young as Millennials, and really don’t know that much yet, I have learned enough to know that we are better than this, and if we make the right decisions, we will eventually realize that change needs to be made. Maybe I was born a few years too late, or I have realized too early.

Cover Image Credit: Rachel Wahlin

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To The Girl Who Had A Plan

A letter to the girl whose life is not going according to her plan.
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“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.” - William Ernest Henley

Since we were little girls we have been asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” We responded with astronauts, teachers, presidents, nurses, etc. Then we start growing up, and our plans change.

In middle school, our plans were molded based on our friends and whatever was cool at the time. Eventually, we went to high school and this question became serious, along with some others: “What are your plans for college?” “What are you going to major in?” “When do you think you’ll get married?” “Are you going to stay friends with your friends?” We are bombarded with these questions we are supposed to have answers to, so we start making plans.

Plans, like going to college with our best friends and getting a degree we’ve been dreaming about. Plans, to get married as soon as we can. We make plans for how to lose weight and get healthy. We make plans for our weddings and children.

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We fill our Pinterest boards with these dreams and hopes that we have, which are really great things to do, but what happens when you don’t get into that college? What happens when your best friend chooses to go somewhere else? Or, what if you don’t get the scholarship you need or the awards you thought you deserved. Maybe, the guy you thought you would marry breaks your heart. You might gain a few pounds instead of losing them. Your parents get divorced. Someone you love gets cancer. You don’t get the grades you need. You don’t make that collegiate sports team. The sorority you’re a legacy to, drops you. You didn’t get the job or internship you applied for. What happens to you when this plan doesn’t go your way?

I’ve been there.

The answer for that is “I have this hope that is an anchor for my soul.” Soon we all realize we are not the captain of our fate. We don’t have everything under control nor will we ever have control of every situation in our lives. But, there is someone who is working all things together for the good of those who love him, who has a plan and a purpose for the lives of his children. His name is Jesus. When life takes a turn you aren’t expecting, those are the times you have to cling to Him the tightest, trusting that His plan is what is best. That is easier said than done, but keep pursuing Him. I have found in my life that His plans were always better than mine, and slowly He’s revealing that to me.

The end of your plan isn’t the end of your life. There is more out there. You may not be the captain of your fate, but you can be the master of your soul. You can choose to be happy despite your circumstances. You can change directions at any point and go a different way. You can take the bad and make something beautiful out of it, if you allow God to work in your heart.

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So, make the best of that school you did get in to. Own it. Make new friends- you may find they are better than the old ones. Apply for more scholarships, or get a job. Move on from the guy that broke your heart; he does not deserve you. God has a guy lined up for you who will love you completely. Spend all the time you can with the loved one with cancer. Pray, pray hard for healing. Study more. Apply for more jobs, or try to spend your summer serving others instead. Join a different club or get involved in other organizations on campus. Find your delight first in God and then pursue other activities that make you happy; He will give you the desires of your heart.

My friend, it is going to be OK.

Cover Image Credit: Megan Beavers Photography

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It Took Me 4 Years And $100K To Realize Why Poor Kids Like Me Don’t Go To College

But now that I know, I can't get it out of my mind.

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I grew up poor.

There, I said it. It's out in the open now—I don't come from a family that has a bunch of money. In fact, my family doesn't have much money at all. My single mother works in fast food and does a DAMN good job trying to support herself and the rest of us. A lot of the food my family gets comes from food pantries. We have received government assistance before. I grew up poor, but I haven't let that define me.

Especially when it came to going to college.

I didn't want to let my economic background hold me back from my potential. I wanted to be the first person on both sides of my family to receive my college degree. I wanted to get a better paying job and moving up in socioeconomic status so I don't have to be the "poor" girl with the "poor" family all my life. I'm not really ashamed of coming from a poor family, but I also don't want to be poor my entire life.

For a majority of my college career, I wondered why there weren't many poor students around me at college. I go to a public university, and it's just the same price as any other state school really. Coming from a lower income home, I did receive a lot of assistance, and without it, there's no way in hell I could be here. I know that many other lower-income students can get this same assistance, which really made me wonder why there was such a lack of other poor kids around me.

I mean, everyone posts videos from their nice, upper-middle-class homes on Snapchat over holiday breaks while I go back home to the trailer park.

Everyone can call mom or dad and ask for money when things get rough while I pay for 100% of the things I own because my mother simply cannot afford it.

Everyone walks around in their name-brand clothes while I'm rocking Walmart knockoffs. It's not something I thought about for a couple years in college, but once I noticed it, I couldn't think of anything else.

It took me nearly all four years of college to realize why there's such a lack of poor students at my average, public university. Poor students are set up for failure in college. It's almost designed to be a survival of the fittest when it comes to us lower-income students, and those of us who are deemed the fittest and do make it to graduation day are typically stuck with a lot of debt that we don't have the financial intelligence or support to even think about paying off.

Poor students are in the minority in college, and when you're in a minority anywhere, surviving can be difficult. When it costs $100 just for a 5-digit code to do your homework, it can be hard to stay in school. When the cost of living on campus is $10,000 or rent for an apartment is nearly $500 a month, it can be hard to stay in school. When you don't have a car because you can't save up the money for one and your parents can't help you, it can be hard to stay in school. When you're forced to get a minimum wage, on-campus job that limits your to twenty hours a week, it can be hard to stay in school. When all of your friends don't understand why you can't go out to eat or to the bar every weekend, it can be hard to stay in school. All of these reasons add up to the main reason why poor kids don't go to college—the odds are stacked against us.

I never had shame in my socioeconomic status until I went to college. In my hometown, I wasn't much less than the norm. Now, my home life is drastically different than that of all of my friends. I know that this is something that is never going to change because when I enter the workforce in less than a year, I'll be going in as the first member of my family with a college degree. People will treat me differently when I tell them this, even if I don't want them to. People will treat me differently when they ask where my parents work and I tell them McDonald's. It's an unfortunate reality that I cannot control.

It took me nearly all four years to realize why poor kids don't go to college, but now that I know, I can't get it off my mind.

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