Have you ever wanted to be alone but not lonely?
You might have told someone that you don’t feel good but in reality you just wanted to be by yourself. Sure, you love having company but sometimes it is just relaxing to be alone. During the time you are able to think peacefully and take your time doing things.
I prefer being alone but not lonely, if that makes sense. Sure, I love hanging out with my loved ones and being around them during good and bad times but, there comes a time when it just becomes too much. That is when I decide I need to take a breather and step away from them to collect my thoughts. They are, in no way, being annoying or troublesome but my interaction quota has been met for the time being.
Whenever I am by myself, I am never bored. For instance, I like shopping alone even though my sister likes to tag along but I concentrate better and get through it quickly. I know what I want and where to get it, so I just head for that area. Also, I love eating by myself. I used to think it was weird for people to eat alone but it is quiet enjoyable. I get to eat and enjoy my food while I sink into my thoughts and think about various things.
Having my alone time lets me think about my future. I jump from one thought to another, just analyzing what my future can hold ranging from career to marriage to even what I’ll be doing when I am 70 years old.
I am an independent person. I do not like to rely on others or owe anyone anything. I like to think for myself and not let people influence me in doing something that I am not comfortable with. Being this type of person has made me into a person who enjoys their own company way too much.
Just because I like being alone, it doesn’t mean that I am not thinking about my loved ones. If I am outside and I see something that reminds me of someone, I tend to start thinking about them. Also, I can call anyone I want to without thinking I am being rude to anyone. For example, if I am at the mall and I see a jacket or shoes that I like but need another person’s opinion, I end up calling my mom. I facetime her and ask to tell me what she thinks of a product I chose for myself or someone else. We go back and forth discussing the pros and cons until I decide to buy it or not. This is a good example of being alone but not lonely. I may be alone at the mall but I can contact my mom if I need her for some advice.
I think it is great for everyone to have their own alone time to reflect on what is happening in their life or what will happen. That alone time gives you to mentally sort through everything that is good and bad in your life and how to eliminate the bad things.
Being alone is not all that bad!
