To Those Who Are Afraid To Open Up

To Those Who Are Afraid To Open Up

Showing emotions is not weak.


I know very well those type of people who don't want to get too close too soon. They hate the feeling of vulnerability, the feeling of having their emotions out in the open. I know this because I used to be like this. But sometimes hiding your emotions and being closed off hurts you more than it saves you.

Emotions are a part of us. It makes us who we are. If you keep rejecting them, they will only bottle up and then you will explode. It is important to say how you feel. Whether it's with a friend or with a significant other, you need to be able to air out how you feel. You shouldn't be afraid to cry or to love.

If you're in a relationship and you're all mysterious and secretive all the time, it gives your partner mixed signals. Mixed signals lead to confusion. That is unfair, especially when your partner gives you all of them and you cannot give all of you. In friendships, it is okay to break down in front of close friends. You do not always have to be the strong one who has it together. You can be open about what you're going through. And if they are truly your friends, they will be there with you and support you without any judgment.

Sometimes, when you feel uncomfortable about opening up, you will also feel uncomfortable in situations where others are talking about their personal feelings. You might feel awkward and out of place because you are not one to share your feelings with everybody. But understand that these situations are a stress reliever for some. It can be a stress reliever for you. Especially if you're surrounded by those you are close to.

I understand that sometimes you don't want others to pity you. You don't want them to think you're weak for crying or breaking under pressure. But the thing is, when you are able to accept your feelings and be connected with them, that does not make you weak; it makes you strong. A while back, I used to think that showing my emotions towards others or towards myself was weak, so instead, I'd keep them all to myself. But now, I admire those who are able to be so affectionate but also voice their emotions so well. Up to this day, I find it difficult to accept others' affection and also show mine.

The point is, if you are afraid to open up that huge bottle of feelings to others, there are other ways to let them out. You can write in a diary or talk to someone extremely close to you. I might sound like a broken record, but it is extremely unhealthy to bottle your emotions. It is important to talk and have someone who will listen to you without any judgment.

The process of opening up to others may be easy for some, but very hard for others. It all depends on how comfortable the person is with other people and also with their own feelings. Keep in mind that you do have people who care about you. They won't pity you or think you're weak. You don't always have to be the strong one with no emotions. Sometimes, it's better to cry when you need to then laugh it off and leave the tears for another day.

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10 Things Someone Who Grew Up In A Private School Knows

The 10 things that every private school-goer knows all too well.


1. Uniforms

Plaid. The one thing that every private school-goer knows all too well. It was made into jumpers, skirts, shorts, scouts, hair ties, basically anything you could imagine, the school plaid was made into. You had many different options on what to wear on a normal day, but you always dreaded dress uniform day because of skirts and ballet flats. But it made waking up late for school a whole lot easier.

2. New people were a big deal

New people weren't a big thing. Maybe one or two a year to a grade, but after freshman year no one new really showed up, making the new kid a big deal.

3. You've been to school with most of your class since Kindergarten

Most of your graduating class has been together since Kindergarten, maybe even preschool, if your school has it. They've become part of your family, and you can honestly say you've grown up with your best friends.

4. You've had the same teachers over and over

Having the same teacher two or three years in a row isn't a real surprise. They know what you are capable of and push you to do your best.

5. Everyone knows everybody. Especially everyone's business.

Your graduating class doesn't exceed 150. You know everyone in your grade and most likely everyone in the high school. Because of this, gossip spreads like wildfire. So everyone knows what's going on 10 minutes after it happens.

6. Your hair color was a big deal

If it's not a natural hair color, then forget about it. No dyeing your hair hot pink or blue or you could expect a phone call to your parents saying you have to get rid of it ASAP.

7. Your school isn't like "Gossip Girl"

There is no eating off campus for lunch or casually using your cell phone in class. Teachers are more strict and you can't skip class or just walk right off of campus.

8. Sports are a big deal

Your school is the best of the best at most sports. The teams normally go to the state championships. The rest of the school that doesn't play sports attends the games to cheer on the teams.

9. Boys had to be clean-shaven, and hair had to be cut

If you came to school and your hair was not cut or your beard was not shaved, you were written up and made to go in the bathroom and shave or have the head of discipline cut your hair. Basically, if you know you're getting written up for hair, it's best just to check out and go get a hair cut.

10. Free dress days were like a fashion show

Wearing a school uniform every day can really drive you mad. That free dress day once a month is what you lived for. It was basically a fashion show for everyone, except for those upperclassmen who were over everything and just wore sweat pants.

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An Ending Is A New Beginning

The end is just the beginning of a new story.


Endings are hard. They are bittersweet, and almost always painful; Whether it is the ending of a book, a movie, a beloved tv series, or a relationship.

Endings to me are the start of something new and fresh. There is a breath of fresh air to the closing of one door and the opening of another. From now on, my focus is on me and how I can best love myself. I want to be involved more in school activities and stay at school more weekends, rather than head home to see someone.

I have never taken time for myself. I always put others first, and there is never anything wrong with that, but it begins to weigh on a person when they neglect their own needs.

My new philosophy is that my happiness and my needs are going to come first. I put off what I needed for a long time in favor of someone else's needs. People often forget that their feelings matter too when they're in a relationship, and out their significant other above themselves. This ending for me is the absolute fresh start after a long almost three years where I put how I felt on the back burner in favor of someone else.

Now, it's my turn to start putting myself first and become an even better version of me.

Always make sure that you take care of yourself in every possible situation; Your health is the most important thing about you. If you don't take care of yourself before you try to take care of someone else, it will only end badly for both people involved.

Self-love and self-care are the most important things for a person, and my self-love is starting with growing out my hair, finishing out this second semester strong, and planning a beach trip for May with some of my favorite human beings.

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