Dear Someone,
These days, social media might make you feel a lot less social. Social media has probably also given you a lot more false impressions of the people around you. Perhaps that is why you feel the need to drop people? My friend, it's great to have friends, but it's even better to keep friends.
If you scroll through your camera roll, you may notice that a lot of people you were with this time a year ago aren't in your life anymore. You would be the first to say, "we drifted", but deep down you know that you chose not to have them in your life because you thought you found better friends. Granted, things happen and there are always two sides to every story; however, if this seems to be a common theme you should really rethink the way you treat people.
Made plans a week ago with your "boring friend", but got an invitation to a last minute to hang out with your "fun friends"? Go hangout with your fun friends, right? If you think that's right, then that's your problem, you treat people as options instead of companions. If you find yourself excluded commonly, it's probably because you blew your friends off thinking that you could find a better opportunity, and that's sad.
I have mentioned social media a lot, but it's only appropriate. If you're asking a friend to hold the camera so you can get a picture with whoever you deem cool or pretty that week, then you should also reevaluate your thinking. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I've seen people use friends for likes/to look better online. If you're really that shallow that you only will post a picture with someone because they're pretty, then you're obviously not someone who is mature enough to even have a social media account.
If you can relate to this article, then you should probably take some time to yourself. Think about who you really are, not who you want to be. If you want people to value you, you need to value them. If you really care about the people you have lost, reach out to them. Don't just text them, "I miss you :(", call them and ask to ta;k face to face if you truly value their friendship. We're all selfish and insecure, but we all have the same needs. Which means, we need to stop prioritizing popularity and start building bonds that will last longer than just a few months.
Best,
The Girl Who Misses A Bad Friend
