Ah, the good old-fashioned relationship article. In my lifetime, I’m sure I’ve read hundreds of articles about loving being single, who you should date, people you should not date, break-up articles, and marriage stories. And through all of this “research”, what have I learned? A lot, and I am willing to share my knowledge with you. But I will be sharing only what I know, which is how to be single.
It’s been a LONG time since I was in a relationship. After some time, I am finally comfortable with being single, especially since I go to a school with the nickname “BYU-I Do”.The first thing I could advise for single people is: it is okay that you are single. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. Being single is not like being a leper. There is nothing wrong with you. You shouldn’t feel ashamed. Be happy where you are at in life.
I have had so much fun being single. I’ve traveled the world, I’ve gone on road trips, been to some amazing concerts, and have made memories with some of my favorite people. If I was in a relationship, I may not have had the experiences that I did. I probably wouldn’t have driven five hours to a concert on a Tuesday with my roommate. I probably wouldn’t have met hot British men in Santa Cruz with my best friend. I would not give up those memories for the world.
I also believe that being in a relationship should not be your priority. Right now, I’m a semester away from graduation and student teaching. The last thing on my mind is being in a relationship. I am the type of person who needs to explore and be free. I don’t want to make somebody give up their dreams just so they can follow me and my dream. I don’t want to be tied down forever, always wondering what if. Being single allows you to live out your dreams and goals. I can do what I want, no approval from anybody else. Love the freedom that you have while you can.
Another bonus is that you can always be admiring the gorgeous men who have graced this planet without any guilt. I can look at pictures of Daveed Diggs or Chris Evans without feeling bad because I have a boyfriend and "thou shalt not covet." Being single gives you so much freedom. Now, this article is not a bashing of people in relationships. It is just a reminder that all single people need every now and again that it is okay. I’m sure that my future husband is out there (stuck in a tree, most likely). So while he is stuck in the tree, I’m going to live my life. I’m going to treat myself the way I deserve to be treated. I’m going to have fun. I’m going to dance, cry, laugh, and sing. And when he comes and finds me, then we will do all of this together.
