If we as humans have one thing in common, it is that we are all striving for love.

It’s always the end goal. We want to find someone to spend the rest of our lives with. Every aspect of our lives is centered around that end goal of finding love.

Much of this is during young adulthood. Our teenage years are spent learning about ourselves by dating others in order to figure out what we want in our futures.

Many people at this age have had many significant others, and a lot are currently in serious relationships.

However, there are many people, like myself, who are not in relationships right now, and haven’t been for a very long time.

Whether it is by choice, or it just hasn’t happened for a while, being single for a long period of time can change you. You become very independent. You are your own person, with your own way of doing life and your own beliefs.

Very independent people, however, may be hard to date. This is because they are so used to being alone, and not having to think about another person. So, coming from one, there are some things you should know before you date the super independent girl.

She isn’t going to throw herself at you.

Nope, sorry. If you want to play games and play hard to get, she isn’t going to give in. She’s been on her own for this long, she doesn’t want someone who is going to waste her time.

She is going to have a hard time letting you in.

This girl is most likely very content with who she is, it will be hard for her to let someone in that could potentially hurt her and what she has worked so hard to become.

Not to mention that she has watched her friends date jerks who have hurt them, and either continue to date them or move on to another one.

That terrifies her, and she never wants to be that girl.

She will have trouble letting you buy her things.

First off, no it is not because she is a feminist and wants to prove something, blah, blah, blah. It is because she is so used to buying everything herself, she literally feels guilty having you do it.

The last thing she wants is to make you spend your money on her. I know it is meant as a sweet gesture, and it is. It’s just hard for her to let you spend your money on her. So if she’s stubborn about who is going to pay the bill, it’s not because she is incapable of letting you do it, she just feels bad.

She is going to have something to say, about literally everything.

When you are not in a relationship you really figure out who you are alone, as a single person. You develop your own beliefs, values, opinions, and ideas.

She is going to have her own opinion and beliefs, regardless of what yours are. If they don’t match up, she isn’t going to change hers.

It’s not to be difficult, she is just her own person.

Although it may be difficult at times, she will be the best girlfriend you could have because she doesn’t need you, she wants you.