Advice For The Confused College Girl

Advice For The Confused College Girl

What to do when you feel like you can't figure out your future, dreams, or life.
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"You're crazy," they said as I scribbled away doodles, tried to open an Etsy shop, and packed boxes in my tiny sorority bedroom.

I didn't stick with Etsy for long but I had the itch to get outside of the norm -- to do something so beyond ordinary when I graduated. I couldn't help but start something. I didn't know what that something was, I just knew I had to do it.

So, I tried all sorts of creative endeavors. I was more like a whirling tornado of creativity than a human as I grabbed my diploma and zipped into the next project. TBH, I've been more of a hot mess than an actual human in my lifetime. Sounds like you? Cool, join the club.


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You know, a lot of people ask me how I started blogging and speaking, how I grew an audience, etc. And one of the many things I've learned is that it's about getting started before you have it all figured out. It's about dipping your toe into the cold, deep sea because you'll never walk on water if you don't get out of the boat.

Walking on water sounds crazy, right?

Good, it should. But I think we're called to be crazy -- to step outside of the ordinary and to do those things we don't believe we could ever achieve, and even the things we don't fully understand.

It's not about proclaiming to the world, "HEY FOLLOW ME I'VE GOT IT FIGURED OUT."

It's about taking a sister's hand, walking this journey, and saying, "HEY, WE'LL FIGURE IT OUT TOGETHER."

It's about making the hard calls, being willing to change, learning as we go, and following the Leader even when we look crazy. When I started doing that, something amazing happened. My blogging hobby turned into more than just a hobby. It led me to become a full-time writer and speaker instead of using my degree after college...something I never thought I could or would do.

CRAZY, right?


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So if you're afraid to chase your passion for fear of being called crazy, be crazy with me anyway. Jump out of your safe little boat. I promise, with a little bit of faith, some stink, sweat, and your eyes fixed on God's power over your life when the waves start crashing, you WILL walk on water. Even when the world says you can't. It's like it's what you were made to do or something.

PS. If you're curious about how I grew my faith-based blog audience from just 100 readers to over 100,000 readers in less than 12 months, you can download my cheatsheet by clicking the link below.

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To The Girl Who Had A Plan

A letter to the girl whose life is not going according to her plan.
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“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.” - William Ernest Henley

Since we were little girls we have been asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” We responded with astronauts, teachers, presidents, nurses, etc. Then we start growing up, and our plans change.

In middle school, our plans were molded based on our friends and whatever was cool at the time. Eventually, we went to high school and this question became serious, along with some others: “What are your plans for college?” “What are you going to major in?” “When do you think you’ll get married?” “Are you going to stay friends with your friends?” We are bombarded with these questions we are supposed to have answers to, so we start making plans.

Plans, like going to college with our best friends and getting a degree we’ve been dreaming about. Plans, to get married as soon as we can. We make plans for how to lose weight and get healthy. We make plans for our weddings and children.

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We fill our Pinterest boards with these dreams and hopes that we have, which are really great things to do, but what happens when you don’t get into that college? What happens when your best friend chooses to go somewhere else? Or, what if you don’t get the scholarship you need or the awards you thought you deserved. Maybe, the guy you thought you would marry breaks your heart. You might gain a few pounds instead of losing them. Your parents get divorced. Someone you love gets cancer. You don’t get the grades you need. You don’t make that collegiate sports team. The sorority you’re a legacy to, drops you. You didn’t get the job or internship you applied for. What happens to you when this plan doesn’t go your way?

I’ve been there.

The answer for that is “I have this hope that is an anchor for my soul.” Soon we all realize we are not the captain of our fate. We don’t have everything under control nor will we ever have control of every situation in our lives. But, there is someone who is working all things together for the good of those who love him, who has a plan and a purpose for the lives of his children. His name is Jesus. When life takes a turn you aren’t expecting, those are the times you have to cling to Him the tightest, trusting that His plan is what is best. That is easier said than done, but keep pursuing Him. I have found in my life that His plans were always better than mine, and slowly He’s revealing that to me.

The end of your plan isn’t the end of your life. There is more out there. You may not be the captain of your fate, but you can be the master of your soul. You can choose to be happy despite your circumstances. You can change directions at any point and go a different way. You can take the bad and make something beautiful out of it, if you allow God to work in your heart.

SEE ALSO: To The Girl Patiently Waiting With An Impatient Heart

So, make the best of that school you did get in to. Own it. Make new friends- you may find they are better than the old ones. Apply for more scholarships, or get a job. Move on from the guy that broke your heart; he does not deserve you. God has a guy lined up for you who will love you completely. Spend all the time you can with the loved one with cancer. Pray, pray hard for healing. Study more. Apply for more jobs, or try to spend your summer serving others instead. Join a different club or get involved in other organizations on campus. Find your delight first in God and then pursue other activities that make you happy; He will give you the desires of your heart.

My friend, it is going to be OK.

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