When you leave high school a sense of relief of not having to see most of these people again kind of lessens the blow of adulthood. We all disliked someone in high school, just some of us handled it better than others. Then there are the people who, though now graduated, still cannot handle it maturely. Even some people we didn't even know in high school and met at work are still stuck in their drama.
As a graduated adult, the most disappointing thing for me was my first job where you had to be at least 18 to work there. Even though I still work there, it's only a couple times a month. They don't even schedule me, but I could pick up more shifts if I wanted to, except I don't. I was so disappointed to work there and realize that the adult workforce still had so much drama. And despite my best efforts to just stay out of it, some people dragged me in by my teeth.
But there's always a solution to that problem, and it's pretty darn easy: ignore it. I know more than anything that it's hard, especially at work, but it's for the best. Sometimes I don't even follow my own advice, like the other day I let some high school bully I haven't seen in years get under my skin. I should've just acted like an adult and ignored it, but even my teenage days can get the best of me.
But there's having a slip up and there's yearning for your childhood days of harassing people. If you're starting drama with people who have nothing to do with you all the time, it's time to look in the mirror. Especially in an environment like work or even college. There is a huge chance that the person you're starting drama with could not care less about you or your opinion. And chances are you're going to be the one who looks bad, especially if the person ignores your pathetic attempts to bother them.
My favorite thing is when someone starts a rumor or thinks I care about how they feel about me. Like are you a friend of mine? No. A family member? No. Then why should I care? I shouldn't. The trick of the trade is to be on good terms with a lot of people, even if you don't like them. That doesn't mean pretending to be their friend or care about them, but just be nice and a lot of unnecessary drama fades away. And if they're irrelevant, don't listen to their drama. I have 3 people I consider my close friends, my two girls from high school, Ally and Julia, and my fiancé. Past that, no ones' opinion of me will upset me, except for my family.
But honestly, if you're an adult who starts drama all the time, are you even an adult? Most of the drama and rumors that are started come to be from an ignorant person who has nothing to do with a situation. Everybody has an opinion of everything that they hear, and everyone that they meet. It doesn't mean the whole world cares about your opinion. Heck, every single thing I post on Facebook I'm 100% aware that no one's interested or cares. But that's what social media's used for these days.
All in all, just stay out of it. And if you're the person starting it, find something else to occupy your time. Join a gym, go for coffee with some friends, learn a new skill. Don't waste your time on other people who don't care about you. Become your own person, worry about yourself and work on yourself. That's so much more rewarding then making someone laugh with your sad attempts to hurt their feelings.
