“Why do I and everyone I know pick people who treat us like we are nothing?"

To The Girls Who Deserve Better:

You deserve better than the guy who makes you question if you are the problem. You need to understand that you do not deserve to ever feel like you are not good enough for someone. You should never settle for someone that makes you constantly ask yourself what you did wrong and doesn’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

You deserve better than the guy that constantly makes you a second option because you deserve to be number one. When I say this, I don’t mean that you should be number one in his life all the time because he deserves to have a life other than you (and you should have a life outside of him). What I do mean is that when it comes time for you guys to spend time together, you should never be a second option. You should never be the person he goes to when his other plans fall through because you are not and should never be a backup plan.

You deserve better than the guy who only calls/texts you at 3 a.m. when he’s bored or drunk. You deserve someone who likes you when he's sober, just as much as he likes you when he's drunk. You are not someone he can run to when he's lonely or bored and you sure as hell are not just a hookup or booty call for anyone.

You deserve better than the guy who only texts you when he needs you to do something for him. You do not need to do his laundry. Or fold his clothes. Or clean his room/house. You are not his mom. Realize that you do not need to answer to his every request because you deserve a whole hell of a lot more respect than that.

You deserve better than the guy whose phone is full of texts, DMs, Snapchats, etc. from other girls. You deserve a guy who makes you a priority among other girls. Someone who doesn’t think of you as “just another girl” because you are so much more than that. You deserve a guy that is loyal to you and only you and is not afraid to tell or show people that.

You deserve better than the guy who keeps you a secret. You do not deserve to be someone he doesn't look at in public or doesn't speak to when he's around his friends. You don't deserve to have someone delete texts from you after you talk, and he shouldn't act like you don't exist. You deserve to be shown off because you are worth it. If a guy wants to keep you a secret then he is not worth a second of your time and you can do so much better.

You deserve better than the guy who only texts you or makes time for you when it’s convenient for him. You should be a priority to him. You deserve better than the guy who changes or cancels plans on you a million times. Things do happen, and some of which are out of a person's control, but you do not deserve someone who continues to change and reschedule plans with you just because he feels like he can.

Realize that you deserve better and never settle for less than you deserve again. Because one day you are going to find a guy that will give you everything you deserve and more. Trust me.