Abortion, a taboo topic most everywhere and quite a controversial one here in America. In my personal opinion abortion should always be allowed when the fetus is not viable outside the mother. According to record a fetus has not been known to survive any earlier than 21 weeks when including the rare case of Lyla Stensrud. Fetuses at that time are not alive because they cannot survive outside their mother. After this alloted amount of time abortions should only be allowed for these two types of pregnancies. Pregnancies that are life threatening to the mother, because she is not required to give up her own right to life to allow another to live. And, pregnancies where the baby will not survive because birthing a stillborn is mentally damaging to the mother and causes physical trauma that could have been avoided. Allowing abortions will help reduce the number of children who wind up in the system because they were parented by people who did not want children. It will decrease the number of minors who are mothers with no high school degree. It will prevent rape victims from having a traumatizing reminder of what happened to them. It will give options to women who took precautions, but fell into the low percent that get pregnant even with their efforts to avoid it. When abortion is illegal it does not stop women from having abortions. Women will use coathangers, hit themselves in the stomach, ingest toxins, or do many other dangerous things to terminate a pregnancy. Making abortion illegal will only stop safe abortions not abortion completely.
Due to recent political strife happening in the world today, I have decided to write on a very touchy, difficult subject for me that only a handful of people truly know.
When I was 18 years old, I had an abortion.
I was fresh out of high school, and deferring college for a year or two — I wanted to get all of my immature fun out so I was prepared to focus and work in the future. I was going through my hardcore party stage, and I had a boyfriend at the time that truly was a work of art (I mean truly).
Needless to say, I was extremely misinformed on sex education, and I never really thought it could happen to me. I actually thought I was invincible to getting pregnant, and it never really registered to me that if I had unprotected sex, I could actually get pregnant (I was 18, I never said I was smart).
I remember being at my desk job and for weeks, I just felt so nauseous and overly tired. I was late for my period, but it never really registered to me something could be wrong besides just getting the flu — it was November, which is the peak of flu season.
The first person I told was my best friend, and she came with me to get three pregnancy tests at Target. The first one came negative, however, the second two came positive.
I truly believe this was when my anxiety disorder started because I haven't been the same ever since.
Growing up in a conservative, Catholic Italian household, teen pregnancy and especially abortion is 150% frowned upon. So when I went to Planned Parenthood and got the actual lab test done that came out positive, I was heartbroken.
I felt like I was stuck between two roads: Follow how I was raised and have the child, or terminate it and ultimately save myself AND the child from a hard future.
My boyfriend at the time and I were beyond not ready. That same week, I found out he had cheated on me with his ex and finances weren't looking so great, and I was starting to go through the hardest depression of my life. Because of our relationship, I had lost so many friends and family, that I was left to decide the fate of both myself and this fetus. I could barely take care of myself — I was drinking, overcoming drug addictions, slightly suicidal and living with a man who didn't love me.
As selfish as you may think this was, I terminated the fetus and had the abortion.
I knew that if I had the child, I would be continuing the cycle in which my family has created. My goal since I was young was to break the cycle and breakaway from the toxicity in how generations of children in my family were raised. If I had this child, I can assure you my life would be far from how it is now.
If I had carried to term, I would have had a six-year old, and God knows where I would've been.
Now, I am fulfilling my future by getting a BA in Politics, Philosophy and Economics, having several student leadership roles, and looking into law schools for the future.
Although it still haunts me, and the thought of having another abortion truly upsets me, it was the best thing to ever happen to me. I get asked constantly "Do you think it's just to kill a valuable future of a child?" and my response to that is this:
It's in the hands of the woman. She is giving away her valuable future to an unwanted pregnancy, which then resentment could cause horror to both the child and the woman.
As horrible as it was for me in my personal experience, I would not be where I am today: a strong woman, who had overcome addiction, her partying stage, and ultimately got her life in order. If I would have had the child, I can assure you that I would have followed the footsteps of my own childhood, and the child would not have had an easy life.
Because of this, I saved both my life and the child's life.
And if you don't agree or you dislike this decision, tough stuff because this is my body, my decision, my choice — no one else.
The Confederate Flag, a symbol marking the South's secession which led to the Civil War, remains a divisive emblem among ASU students, with some viewing it as Southern pride and others perceive it as a symbol of deep-seated racism.
Edjen Faye Duran, a student from the Philippines, believes it is inappropriate for this flag to be celebrated. "I think that it is offensive and despairing for them to do that. I think that the flag symbolizes racism, death and overall inequality that many people of color have had to go through," said Duran.
But other students disagree. "A lot of times it's taken as racism. But a lot of people just treat it as a sign of heritage and keeping to their roots," said Florida-native Arash Nasresfahani.
While Nasresfahani said that the flag is in line with "America's founding principles" and is a form of free speech, the disagreement runs deeper than the discussion of the first amendment.
Kylie Vacala of Gilbert believes that the legality of flying the flag is not the question, but instead, the issue lies in the morality of the action. "The Confederate flag represents negative outlooks and I do believe shows support of slavery. I think when someone parades or flies the flag it still represents those ideals," said Vacala.
Disagreements have heightened since the Ku Klux Klan, which is classified as a hate group by the Southern Poverty Law Center, adopted Confederate symbolism. This group praises the flag as well as Confederate monuments.
The KKK's involvement has also increased outbreaks of violence, one of the most notorious being a 2017 clash between alt-right protestors and counter-protestors surrounding a Confederate monument in Charlottesville, Va.
According to ABC News, one woman was killed during these protests and 19 were injured.
Though no high-profile violence related to the Confederacy has broken out since this event, tensions still run high. "Nobody is ever going to agree on it," said Nasresfahani.