We all have that one best friend who knows us better than we know ourselves. Whether it's your mom, your dog, or a friend you met in school, it feels good to have someone who knows what you're thinking just by looking at you; the kind of friends you'd want to live with. Then, one day, you decide to go to college 3,000 miles away from them. It's hard, but it's not impossible. However, with trying to make it possible, there are a few bumps in the road that try to knock your friendship down.
1. Getting jealous when they hang out without you.
Once you're gone, you swear you're going to be okay without hanging out with your friends, because that just means that when you visit, it will be even better. However, it's all fun and games until Friday night comes and you are in your room watching Grey's Anatomy, while your friends are hanging out, having fun without you. You know this because part of your night has consisted in stalking their Snapchat story. How dare they hang out without you? Well, what were they supposed to do? Wait for you? No, but you wish they would. It doesn't mean they're bad friends, it just means they're trying to adapt to not having you there with them.
2. Talking about them way too much.
Remember how Cady Heron mentioned talking so much about Regina George it felt like word vomit? And how she felt people getting bored with her, but she couldn’t help it? That’s how it feels. All you want to do is brag about how you have the best friend in the world and talk about how badly you miss them. You take any opportunity you can find to make the conversation about them, regardless of the fact that the people you are talking to, either don't even know your friends, or could not care less care about them.
3. Not being able to be there.
The worst feeling in the world is wanting to be there for someone, but being unable to. Sometimes all your best friend needs is a hug from you, yet all you can give them is a virtual one and pep-talky advice. It hurts both of you, but it's just a part of your new reality and, even though it sucks, you need to get used to it.
“You know if I could, I’d take a plane right now just to hug you.”
4. Your friends not being able to be there for you.
Just like your friends just need a hug from you some days, other days all you need is a hug from them. It's not necessarily that you have no one now, it's just that you're sad and moody and all you want is to talk to the person who just happens to be 3500 miles away. The new friends you made are great and all that, but nothing compares to a hug from your best friend.
5. Getting scared when you don't talk to them for two days.
Once you're used to seeing someone often, when you don't, you try to make up for it by trying to talk constantly. The problem is that when you get used to talking to someone every day, just one day without talking to them feels like two months. Distance can sometimes alter your perception of time.
“I KNEW THE DISTANCE WAS GOING TO SEPARATE US. WE HAVEN’T TALKED IN MONTHS.”
Dude, chill out. We talked yesterday.
6. Facetime, Skype, and everything else failing.
“Could you say that again? You had a poor connection.”
“You froze.”
“What? I don’t understand what you’re saying, Your voice is intermittent..”
7. Wanting to tell them something Face to Face.
The best part of having a best friend is being able to tell them anything; whether it was something that made you sad, angry, happy, and so forth. Then again, there are just things that a text or a phone call just can't describe. Telling them about your day via text is just not as fun as acting out what that girl you hate said in Math class the other day.8. Missing them way too much.
There comes a point where you miss your friends so much, everything either reminds you of them or of something you did or used to do with them. You spend your days tagging them in tweets, facebook posts and even taking pictures of stupid things that just made you think of them. Even though they're not physically with you, they're always in your thoughts and, most of all, in your heart.
“Water? I drank water with my best friend once."
Even though long-distance anything can be hard, always keep in my mind that the Universe has a plan for you. The people who are meant to be in your life eventually will be. Those who are not, are just part of a lesson life has for you. Just always know that "It takes two to Tango", in order to make long distance friendships (and even long distance relationships) work, both of the people involved have to make an effort. Don't just assume that since you've started the conversation the last two times, it means your friends are no longer interested in you, it could just mean they were either really busy or were planning on talking to you later on. When someone is not interested, you'll know, regardless whether they are the ones to start the conversation or not.
