Things happen in life that we just cannot control, they are situations that truly break our heart, but we must be strong. We must be a family and do our best to help each other. Here are some things that may help you in these tragic times...
1. Stay Strong
I know, it's not easy, and holding back emotions isn't healthy either, but, staying strong for the people closest to you will create a better state of mind for them. Don't let all of your emotions create destructive decisions. Be strong for your mom, dad, brother, sister, best friend, etc.
2. Don't forget to smile
It's going to be hard, but they want you to smile, rather than crying through the night. They are watching you, they see you fighting, and I promise you... they love you just as much as you love them. Pour your heart through your mouth with smiles and create positive thoughts in this rough time.
3. Cherish the memories
You're never going to forget that inspiring personality, contagious laugh, courageous character and infectious smile. Now don't forget, you can reminisce of the fantastic times you've had together. Regardless if it's them tripping people constantly or hammering down on the throttle.
4. Give space
The family knows you care, but make sure you give them space. It is possible for to much comfort, and the last thing you want them to do is lose control of their emotions. Show your condolences but please, be respectful.
5. Control your anger
Your emotions are heavy, along with many others. It's hard not to point fingers, but until your emotions are stable, control that vial of anger. Don't lash out on others, try to stay calm. There is a reason why things happen, whether we like them or not, the god that they worshiped had a plan for them, and possibly he just needed the extra angels watching over his children. Whatever the reason may be, smile through it, and move on.
6. Write them a letter
You may not be able to give it to them, but for healthy emotion release, write them a letter. Let them know how much they mean to you, let them know how much you love them and you just wish they had more time. They are watching you write it, and they probably know what you're thinking, so be honest. They want to know how you feel, and they still want to talk to you. They will give you a sign for their presence, so keep your eyes open.
7. Don't neglect yourself
Take care of yourself. It's not always easy remembering your personal hygiene, eating, or sleeping well, but you must. Don't forget your morning shower, the brushing of your teeth and that trip to the local breakfast joint. If you feel depressed or anxious, seek help from a healthcare professional and talk to someone. Your family will want to know and will do whatever it takes for your comfort.
8. Be patient
Your heart will never forget your loved one, and it will take time for your mind to heal, so be patient. The mourning process will slowly deteriorate, and you will return back to everyday life. You will constantly think of them, and that's okay. Think about the innocent smile, beautiful memories, outstanding personality, and amazing soul that has touched all of our lives.
In loving memory of Ryan. L Pruitt and Cameron L. Nichols
Additional information:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
"If you’re thinking about suicide, are worried about a friend or loved one, or would like emotional support, the Lifeline network is available 24/7 across the United States."
