Any situation, circumstance, or even mood you’re in can affect your relationship with your sister. Whether you were both a part of something serious like a divorce, or you were bratty little kids and sassy teenagers who just didn’t like each other while growing up, you and your sister’s relationship is unique in its own way. Over time though, you’ll both come to realize how badly you need the other in your life, and you’ll fight tooth and nail to make it work. And if you’re as lucky as I am, the pieces will finally fit. Then, you’ll not only have a sister, but also a best friend. So, with that said, here’s 8 things that happen when you and your sister become closer later than sooner:
Instead of playing with you at the park, she takes you to your first R rated movie.
Forget the nostalgia about your big sister pushing you on a swing as a tiny tot, and start reminiscing over the times that she took you to the R rated movies that your parents wouldn’t. Sappy memories like that, quite frankly, come a dime for a dozen. You’ll never forget the time you were 13-years-old, and your big sister bought you a movie ticket to see Knocked Up. Your parents were too embarrassed by the commercials to even think about taking you and your friends to see that movie, but not your sister. She bought you some candy, and laughed throughout every second of raunchy hilarity right alongside you. Even if some of the jokes went right over your middle school head, you still knew it was funny, because your big sister was literally busting a gut and crying. She more or less gave you the “birds & the bees” talk without even having to talk to you. Sister win.
She may not have been front row at every event when you were a kid, but she’ll be front row for everything else.
Your sister may have missed your little league softball games, but you can bet she was at every high school basketball game or softball game that she could get to. She was there when your team won an undefeated, state championship title your senior year. She was at every senior night, prom, and graduation. People can say it’s the little things that matter most, but you and your sister know that it’s really the big things. And she wouldn’t miss a single one of those for the world. She’ll be there when you graduate college, when you get married, and when you decide to start a family. She will quickly become that one face that you can always expect to see in the crowd.
She already has all of the makeup tips and secrets that can save you tremendously.
She’s older than you, therefore she’s wiser. She knows that you do not want to wear that bright blue eyeshadow that perfectly matches your bright blue shirt, even if you don’t know it at the time. She’ll be your own, personal makeup artist for any prom or school dance that you go to. No elaborately winged eyeliner or rhinestones by the corner of your eyes. No sir. She’ll teach you all that is “Barbie lips,” and make sure that you look as fierce as fierce can be. After all, everyone in the tristate area knows that you’re her little sister. You can’t dishonor the family like that.
When you’re older, you know all of the same people and all of their business.
It’s easier to gossip about grown up people when you understand grown up things. You can’t really talk about who’s cheating with who when you’re 10, and your sister is 18. It’s so much easier to gossip in your old age. By this point, you’ve both learned completely different sides to the people you’re talking about. You can know someone as one of your best friend’s big brother, and your sister can know them completely differently as the boy who tried to take her out on 500 dates. Put those two sides together, and BOOM! You have stories that are so spectacularly gossip charged that it will blow both of your minds.
You like many of the same things.
When you’re younger, you look at your sister and see someone who is boy crazy, girly, and makeup obsessed. You just don’t understand it all. And there you are. Your only worry in the world is playing in the creek, staying out on the trampoline all day, and seeing how much trouble you can get in. As you get older, you basically turn into your sister. When you go to her house to spend the night, you watch The Bachelor until your eyes pop out of your head, and talk forever about the different Urban Decay eyeshadow palettes.
You’re automatically a bridesmaid in at least one wedding.
When you’re little and see her as just your big sister and only your big sister, you’re pretty much in for the shock of your life when she falls in love, and he puts a ring on it. Even at the age of 15 and in high school, you still haven’t gotten over the hate of having to share anything of yours, especially your sister. But, as it is, you’re expected to be a bridesmaid. And you do it. You stand up there in the dress that your sister picked out while you gain a brother-in-law (that you may end up liking more than your sister, but we won’t get into that), and have to inevitably share one of your most favorite things in the world. But, what you couldn’t understand as a kid, you understand now that you’re older. Love is kind of awesome, and you’ll think that it’s pretty cool that your sister found that.
She eventually becomes a mom, and you become an aunt.
This of course is an occurrence you expect to happen when you and your sister get older. When you’re young and not very close, the only identity that your sister has is just that: sister. It’s not like she took care of you or anything, so you’re like “does this chick even have a motherly bone in her body?” Then it happens. She sends you the ultrasound picture. You become the person whose job is to move presents around at her baby shower so she doesn’t have to move around or lift anything heavy. You become the person who never ever cries, but does when they have to take her down for an emergency C-section. You become the person who literally has an ice cold heart, but completely melts for a little, tiny, baby boy (who looks exactly like your sister). She becomes the person who is up day and night taking care of this tiny little human. She becomes the person who makes tons of sounds that you could probably have her committed for just for a smile. She becomes the person who has baby food on her shirt, but still looks like she walked straight out of a magazine. And just like that she’s a mom, and you’re an aunt. An amazing mom at that! And you’ll be a pretty cool aunt, too. You can take your nephew to the same rated R movies that your sister did you!
You finally understand each other.
Growing up more or less having each other without really having each other can conjure up so much confusion and an itty, bitty feeling like you missed out on something. But getting closer at an older age puts everything into perspective. You finally understand each other’s rhymes and reasons. You both learned how to be in each other’s lives, how to accept apologies that you never got, and how to be those inseparable sisters that you see on cheesy, family sitcoms. You both learn that the past doesn’t matter nearly as much as the awesome future that is ahead of you. You both learn that you have a shoulder to lean on, someone to listen to you, someone to make you laugh, and help you up when you fall down (or when the other tripped you). You also realize that you’ve always had that. You both just needed to figure it out, and although it took you a few tries, you’ve finally got it. And it’s great.
