8 People I Want To Be

8 People I Want To Be


Growing up is hard, and growing into the person I want to become is even harder. It takes a lot of time and heart and soul to decide who you want to be. Some qualities come naturally and some don't. Here's a list of 8 people I want to be:

1. A Friend

I've got best friends I've known my whole life, and friends I've known for just a short period of time. But the amount of time we've been friends is no way to measure the love in my heart that I have for them. I want to be the type of friend who is encouraging, and loving, understanding, kind, loyal, honest and fair. I want to be the type of friend that can be called on day or night, with judgments set aside. I want to be the friend called on during a time of need, and the friend called on to celebrate life's joyous moments.

2. A Sister

I have no biological sisters, but I have almost 200 sorority sisters who have been my other family over the past three and a half years. I have been a little sister, a big sister, a grand big, great grand big, and so on. I have been a loving sister, a harsh sister, and a truthful sister. And I know that when I become an alumna in the spring, I will still be all of these things. My time in my chapter has filled my heart with happiness, and I will always be proud to be a Zeta Tau Alpha sister.

3. A Daughter

I have been a daughter for almost 22 years and I don't know if I'll ever really get it right. Being a daughter is hard work. My parents are incredible. They are my role models and by far cooler than I could ever hope to be. They inspire me and lead me and advise me. All I want to to do is just make them proud of the daughter they raised. I want to show them the kind of love they have shown me. But sometimes it can truly be hard to be patient, and sometimes I find myself snapping at them. I take for granted many things that they do for me and things that they provide me with. I hope I can keep growing to become a daughter worthy of all the love they have for me and will continue to show me.

5. A Wife

Someday, in the distant future, I hope to be a wife. I have prayed for my future husband for so long, and I pray about the type of man he will be. But along with that, I pray for the kind of wife I will be to him. I hope to be patient and kind, loving, hopeful, funny, joyful, heartfelt, inspiring, and smart.

"Love is patient, Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others. It is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered. It keeps no record of wrong. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." -- 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

That's the kind of love I hope for and I hope it's the kind of love that embodies me and empowers me as a loving wife.

6. A Mother

Ohh, how I hope and pray that the Lord blesses me with the opportunity to be a mother. I want babies and I want to love on them and build them up. I want to teach them about Jesus and be their number one confidante. I hope I can be half the mother that my dear momma has been to me.

7. A Nurse

Some of you may not want to be a nurse. Some of you may want to be a teacher, an artist, an engineer, a musician. Whatever it is you are striving to be, I hope it's what you truly want to do. I want to be a nurse. With my whole heart, I want to be a nurse. Even as a student in clinicals, I see the impact and role that nurses play in the lives of their patients. On my days in the hospital, I brighten days and bring smiles. I wipe away tears and hold hands. I comfort and show grace. Being a nurse is the last thing from glamorous but it is purely selfless and it makes my heart leap with joy. I want to be the best nurse. I want to continue being kind and bringing comfort, wiping away tears and holding hands. I want to do the things that others don't want to do because my patients are going to need it, and they are going to deserve to be cared for by someone who truly does care. Man, oh man, I want to be a nurse.

8. A Follower of Jesus Christ for the Rest of My Days

There is nothing more important. Jesus comes before everything: being a wife or a mother. I can desire to be all of these incredible things, but if they are not His will for me - none of it matters.

"I believe in Christ like I believe in the sun - not because I can see it, but by, it I can see everything else." - C.S. Lewis

So if none of my plans work out for me, I've got Jesus... and He's got my future in His hands. How could I want anything more?!

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To The Boy Who Will Love Me Next

If you can't understand these few things, leave before things get too involved

To the boy that will love me next, I need you to know and understand things about me and my past. The things I have been though not only have shaped the person I’ve become, but also sometimes controls my life. In the past I’ve been used, abused, and taken for granted, and I want something real this time. The guys before you were just boys; they didn’t know how to treat me until it was too late. They didn’t understand how to love me, until I broke my own heart. Before you truly decide to love me I want you to understand these things.

When I tell you something, please listen.

I’m my own person, I want to be loved a certain way. If I ask you to come over and watch movies with me please do it, if I ask for you to leave me alone for a few hours because it’s a girl’s night please do it. I don’t just say things to hear my own voice, I say things to you because it’s important to my life and the way I want to be loved. I’m not a needy person when it comes to being loved and cared for, but I do ask for you to do the small things that I am say.

Forgive my past.

My past is not a pretty brick road, it is a highway that has a bunch of potholes and cracks in it. I have a lot of baggage, and most of it you won’t understand. But don’t let my past decided whether you want to love me or not. My past has helped form who I am today, but it does not define who I am. My past experiences might try and make an appearance every once in a while, but I will not go back to that person I once was, I will not return to all that hurt I once went though. When I say those things, I’m telling the complete and honest truth. I relive my past every day, somethings haunt me and somethings are good reminds. But for you to love me, I need you to accept my past, present and future.

I’m just another bro to the other guys.

I have always hung out with boys, I don’t fit in with the girl groups. I have 10 close girlfriends, but the majority of my friends are guy, but don’t let this scare you. If I wanted to be with one of my guy friends I would already be with him, and if you haven’t noticed I don’t want them because I’m with you. I will not lose my friendships with all my guy friends to be able to stay with you. I will not cut off ties because you don’t like my guy friends. I have lost too many buddies because of my ex-boyfriends and I promised myself I wouldn’t do that again. If you don’t like how many guy friends I have you can leave now. Don’t bother trying to date me if you can accept the fact I’m just another bro.

I might be a badass, but I actually have a big heart.

To a lot of people I come off to be a very crazy and wild girl. I will agree I can be crazy and wild, but I’m more than that. I’m independent, caring, responsible, understanding, forgiving, and so such more type of woman. Many people think that I’m a badass because I don’t take any negatively from anyone. Just like we learned when we were younger, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.” Most people can’t do that in today’s world, so I stick up for myself and my friends. I don’t care what anyone thinks about me, or their option on how I live my life. The only thing I care about is being able to make myself happy. Even though I’m an independent woman, understand that I do have a big heart. Honesty when I truly care for someone I will do just about anything they ask, but don’t take advantage of this. Once you take advantage of this part of me, all respect will be lost for you.

I’m hard to love.

Sometimes I want to be cuddle and get attention, and sometimes I don’t want you to talk to me for a couple hours. Sometimes I want you to take me out for a nice meal, but sometimes I want a home cooked meal. Every day is different for me, sometimes I change my mind every hour. My mood swings are terrible on certain days, and on those days you should probably just ignore me. I’m not easy to love, so you’ll either be willing to find a way to love me, or you’ll walk out like so many others have.

I’m scared.

I’m scared to love someone again. I’ve been hurt, heartbroken, and beat to the ground in my past relationships. I want to believe you are different, I want to hope things will truly work out, but every relationship has always ended up the same way. I’m scared to trust someone, put my whole heart into them, just to be left and heartbroken again. I sick and tired of putting my whole body and soul into someone for them to just leave when it is convenient for them. If you want to love me, understand it won’t be easy for me to love you back.

When “I’m done.”

When I say “I’m done” I honestly don’t mean that I’m done. When I say that it means I need and want you to fight for me, show me why you want to be with me. I need you to prove that I’m worth it and there’s no one else but me. If I was truly done, I would just walk away, and not come back. So if I ever tell you, “I’m done,” tell me all the reasons why I’m truly not done.

For the boy who will love me next, the work is cut out for you, you just have to be willing to do it. I’m not like other girls, I am my own person, and I will need to be treated as such. For the boy that will love me next, don’t bother with me unless you really want to be with me. I don’t have time to waste on you if you aren’t going to try and make something out of us. To the boy who will love me next, the last thing I would like to say is good luck, I have faith in you.

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As Millennials, We Are The Loneliest People

From one lonely person to another, let's smash this stigma.


If you're a millennial and you're feeling extremely lonely, you certainly aren't alone in that feeling. We are often far too afraid to talk about it because society puts such a stigma on this condition. But I am here to tell you that we, as millennials, are the loneliest age group. so let's smash the stigma and acknowledge this feeling once and for all.

As a (nearly) 20-year-old, I never imagined at this age I would think about loneliness. I would always equate that word with elderly people who are away from all of their loved ones, enduring the sullen monotony of a nursing home. Of course, throughout school, I would feel lonely on occasion--the one stretch of the summer when all of my friends were away while I was home, the period of time I was grieving the loss of a loved one, or even particular days when I was just sadder than usual.

But the loneliness faded away after a brief period of healing. I knew my friends would come back and life would return to normal eventually. It was a mood that was sucky but it was only that: a mood.

However, these past two years have been the loneliest years of my life.

Chronic loneliness is different from the loneliness I've ever experienced before. I didn't think living a couple of hours away from home, living in a community of 40,000 people, starting an independent life would leave me so empty, experiencing a far greater level of emotional pain. I kept myself busy in the community, joining various clubs and programs around campus, attending events, and trying to reach out to others, but it seemed like I never belonged anywhere— in my college or in the greater society.

It didn't take me very long to believe that my life and my hurting were not normal.

A counselor on campus, who was a fully grown adult, was "confused" that I felt this way. I "seemed normal" and normal people have tons of friends in college. People would false empathize with me that they "felt that way when they were adjusting" but I'm fully adjusted and feel no less lonely. I call and text people often but everyone is always "busy," and I have no place in the midst of their crazy lives and other friends. In fact, it's been almost six months since I last hung out with a group of people.

But in fact, what I was feeling wasn't so abnormal after all.

The loneliest generation is not the elderly people who live by themselves without family members by their sides. It's us. We can talk to people every day. Since living away, I've talked to the dining hall staff, cashiers at stores downtown, and the one person who knows all the answers in my information science class, but the quality of the bonds was not what they were at home. They did not instantly make me feel like I had tons of friends. The quality bonds we have lost in this stretch of time, a brief stretch of time where we have to quickly develop friendships.

So how can we end our suffering?

We need to open up about how we're feeling. I was convinced I was the only one who felt this way for the longest time, which worsened the extent of this pain. In fact, our chronic loneliness can damage our health in the same way that smoking 15 cigarettes daily can do. But in order to change our health (and our happiness level for God's sake), we need to make it known that us young people are the lonely ones. And maybe then we can help others in our situation who eat lunch alone, who stay in at night, not by choice, who rarely get calls or texts on their phones.

From one lonely millennial to the rest of them, it is time to combat this feeling for good.

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