8 Dating Concepts My 20-Year-Old Self Doesn't Have Time For
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8 Dating Concepts My 20-Year-Old Self Doesn't Have Time For

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8 Dating Concepts My 20-Year-Old Self Doesn't Have Time For
The Fader

Dating is hard. Why is it so hard? I mean really, if you are interested in someone then you should just go out on a date. But so many things have been expected and accepted in the dating world. Long story short, I am not a fan. Dating apps, attitudes, and social media have totally misconstrued what dating should actually be. I’m only 20 years old, and dating is only getting harder the older I get. And there are some dating concepts that I just don’t have time for.


What is this “talking?”Are we twelve? Are we in a relationship? No? I don’t know what’s going on.

2. Immature social media reactions.

I am not the Pillsbury Dough Boy…don’t poke me on Facebook. And don’t slide into my DMs on Instagram either. Don’t be weird.

3. Pointless conversations.

Him: hey

Her: hey

Him: what’s up?

Her: nothing. How about you?

Him: same.

4. Lying.

Telling the truth isn't that hard, is it? It doesn't matter if you aren't feeling it anymore or something happened. It's not good for either parties that are involved.

5. Social media dating apps and websites.

I don’t want to swipe right…or left…to be honest I have no idea what’s going on.

6. Your immature friends.

Of course, I want to meet your friends eventually. But if we just started dating, I don’t need to meet the flock, especially if they are acting immature all the time. I’m sure they’ll grow into fine men one day, but I don’t want to hang out with them every time you and I are together.

7. Dining hall "dates."

Being smart about spending your money is awesome. Dates that don't cost an arm and a leg are super awesome. But going to your on-campus dining hall is nowhere near awesome. That's not a date. You don't need to spend much (or any if you get creative). Take coffee for example. Coffee is cheap. I love coffee. Let's go on all the coffee dates.

8. Moving too fast.

We just met, bro. You don’t need to plan on moving to the city I want to live in for the rest of my life or start planning out our Christmas together.

With Tinder and the million dating sites that have come about, it seems that it’s harder to find a keeper. Maybe it's the combination of the dating sites and the pressure young adults feel. Or maybe it’s that we all feel too busy. The thing is, you don’t have to be in a relationship at all if you don’t want to. You don’t have to do the dating thing. But for those of us who are interested in dating, it gets difficult. We busy ourselves so much with things that shouldn’t matter in the larger scheme. I try not to busy myself too much, but there’s still these dating things that I don’t have time for. So tell me, what dating things do you not have time for?

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