While I will admit that I am not single for this holiday season, I have had my fair share of people tell me what single people don't want to hear. We all have those people in our lives who are in happy/makes you want to puke/adorable relationships. There is nothing wrong in finding love with someone and you should be happy for your friends that have found those relationships. However, it does not mean those friends are top-of-the-line relationship experts. So, this holiday season when romance is being shoved down your throat, take everything that your friends who are happily taken saywith a grain of salt. We are just idiots in love who don't realize how our relationship advice can come across at times. If you are one of these love-drunk idiots: listen up!
1. How are you still single?!
This should be a basic rule of thumb for everyone. Do not ask this question to your single friends, especially over the holiday season. This is most likely a question they will be getting from their relatives when they go home for the holidays, so don't pile on. Also, never assume someone actually wants to be in a relationship. They could be very happy on their own, especially during the holiday season. This is a good time to have the "treat yo' self" mindset for themselves; don't harsh the mellow.
2. The holidays must be a lot less stressful for you without a boyfriend/girlfriend, huh?
Now this is just stupid. Please don't assume that your single friend's holiday season will be less stressful without a significant other. If anything, I would be jealous of the single person because I wouldn't have to stress over getting the perfect gift for that special someone. If the holiday season does happen to be more stressful for that single person, then don't bring light to that!
3. Use this time to work on yourself and better yourself!
Excuse me? Please never ever say this to a single person. Chances are they do not need to better themselves because they are already great. You should always be a support for your friends and should be building them up because that's what a good friend does. It is up to them if they want to work on themselves. If you do have the audacity to say this to your single friend, then maybe you need to take the time for some self-reflection and better yourself.
4. I just wish you could go to this couples' holiday dinner with us!
And your friend probably wishes they could, too. Or maybe your friend doesn't want to go to the lame couples' dinner with you because they want to go out and find their own fun. That is the beauty of being single, especially during the holidays: you can do whatever the heck you want to do.
5. Maybe you should just get Tinder and hope for the best.
Yikes. Just yikes. Try to hold back the enthusiasm for your friend who is single. The dating apps don't have to be for everyone, but don't treat it like a last resort. If your friend wants to get on Tinder, then more power to him/her.
6. Yeah, with a boyfriend/girlfriend during the holiday season, I spend so much money on them.
First of all, no one should brag on how much they spend on a person. No one wants to hear it. What possible response would your single friend have to this? Don't be rude. Also, that lessens your chance of getting a gift from your friend, so keep that in mind.
7. I could not imagine life without my boyfriend/girlfriend; I just don't know how you do it.
Why on earth would you say this to someone? You are allowed to be happy in your relationship, but don't be an ass. This may seem like a harmless thing to say to some people, but it can definitely come across as a slap in the face. Instead try saying to your awesome friend, "I could not imagine my life without you in it"! This will go over much better, I promise.
