We hear the word toxic and the clear signs are to run as fast as you can from the given situation. Apparently in today's society there is always someone to blame when a relationship goes wrong. Whether it'd be with a friend, significant other, aunt, co-worker, etc. It's important to identify what exactly went downhill in order to achieve some kind of clarity. Here are some signs you're in a toxic relationship.
Being in a toxic relationship drastically haunts your every well-being as a person. You become more cynical, depressed, lost, and more alone than ever. When people hear the word toxic relationship, violence comes to mind. However, this isn't necessarily the case for the majority of the time, there are more subtle signs.
Eggshells
Basically you're always "walking on eggshells" whenever you're around that certain person. Everything becomes stiff in conversations and body language becomes harder to ignore. It's as if they're looking for something to argue about with you when in plain sight. You're scared to even get an opinion across, or how to express your own feelings in the given scenario.
Control
They want to take hold of your personal life and how you want to live. They usually are the ones making the plans and tell you what to do the majority of the time. Often times, you give up when it comes to making your own decisions and you are too scared to go against them due to the fact that they will become even more angry.
Facade
Putting on a face to show that you care. If this person only talks about themselves, what they did the day before, or what they like, and never ask anything concerning you - you then show the same lack of care.
Negative Behavior
Complaining about any means necessary just to get a reaction out of you. Whether it was a bad day at the office and they "think" they're just venting it to you. No, they are lashing it out on you, don't even try to help them in the situation. It will go on for hours and soon that stress will latch onto your own positive attitude.
Physical
It may seem as though this is just for intimate partners with everything you see on the news. However, family and friendships share the same conflict. Grabbing, pushing, flicking, tripping, kicking, etc. are unhealthy signs in any relationship. It's bullying.
One-Sided
Are you the only one who always reaches out, tries to make an effort into actually being together? Maybe you feel used on the little things you do for them. Sometimes you feel this is necessary to keep your relationship intact or fine. This isn't and will be difficult to address.
Competition
Everything that both of you do falls into a trap of competing against each other to see who is better than the other. You may notice it first due to their lack of engagement with you because they may be too focused on themselves. This falls mostly on you and how you see this person.
Sometimes people are able to overcome, or amend a toxic relationship they're in. All in all, this is an unhealthy way of living. Nothing good will come out of it. By understanding these signs there are way of fixing it all together.
It starts with putting yourself first.
