1. Those pre-big/little dates. We all remember the time before we had our bigs, and no matter how it was orchestrated, or whatever you prefer to call it, we dated our older sisters. We sat through fro-yo, luch, coffee, dinner- you name it, looking for our potential soul mates. Maybe it’s just me and my big, (the two most awkward beings on this planet), but if I recall correctly, ours were not the smoothest of dates. There was a mess of word jumbling, drink spilling (oops), and of course, the ever-longing thought of “does she want me to be her little as much as I want her as my big?”. But alas, she was there to ease the nerves and answer any questions you may have had. Despite any uncomfy-ness, you soon knew the nervousness you felt was the good kind, and it was only because you had finally found your srat soul mate.
2. She was with you for your first social. Sure, you went to frat parties before finding your big, but socials are a whole different story. What do you wear? What time do you show up? Are you expected to talk to boys? (No) She held your hand the whole night, danced with you until you physically couldn’t anymore, and didn’t let you out of her sight. For that, you should be forever grateful.
3. What’s hers is yours. From formal dresses to food and everything in between, your big is the epitome of “sharing is caring”. Last years insignia? It’s yours now. Late night cheese fry cravings? Largest order, please. Her friends? They’re now yours by default. And then there are those nights where you simply are not feeling the walk back to your place- the offer to crash in her bed is always available. By the end of your first semester together, you basically became an honorary member of her house.
4. Chapter meetings. Need I say more? Whether it’s sitting in the back holding back laughs, encouraging each other to stand up and say what’s on your mind, or having her explain exactly what is going on, she’s right there with you. Together, those long meetings are more bearable.
5. Big/Little Week. Chances are, you’ve probably thanked your big endlessly for the gifts you received during big/little week but come on, really think about it. The crafts, the shirts, the crafts, the food, the crafts. Seriously. The crafts are a big deal. Those things are not easy, and preparing them all while a full-time student is impressive. Plus, you’ll probably recruit her for when you get a little of your own. The crafting never ends.
6. She’s always got your back. There is a reason why our bigs are our bigs. You share the same values, traits, ideas, and sense of self. For her, having you is like watching a younger version of herself go through life. She would do anything to help you avoid trouble and loves to give advice. Just like any friend, though, she’s never afraid to tell you when you’re wrong. But, because she’s your big and more of a best friend, even when you’re wrong, she’ll support your decisions and defend you regardless.
7. She introduced you to the best kind of family there is: sisterhood. You never felt 100% complete until big/little reveal. From that day on, you two started your reign as big/little duo, the spitting image of each other. You knew, as perfect as your chapter is, you would be incomplete without her. You became friends with her friends. You were added to the family group chat, where you could talk to your grandbig, great-grandbig, and all the way down as far as the line goes, no matter if they had graduated, moved across the country, or were sitting next to you in the library. You grew closer to older sisters because of her. As if you had any doubts before, you realized this was exactly where you were supposed to be.
