For all intents and purposes, I have been single all my life. Of course, this also means that I have had a years-long struggle over that fact. Whenever I hadn’t thought about it in a while, there’s another post on social media about couples being cute.
I felt like it was being rubbed in my face. Like, why can’t I have that?
But, I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s perfectly okay to be single. In my case, I can’t imagine my life right now with another person thrown into the mix. So, here are some reasons why being single is A-OK.
1. You’re busy finding yourself
Be honest with yourself, do you even know who you are? People seem to rush into relationships because they don’t want to find out. So, give yourself the time to do so. It will help you discover what you really want in a potential relationship, instead of trying to find validation through them. Each person in the relationship should have their own identity outside of who you are as a couple. So, isn’t it better to figure it out before it gets complicated?
2. You’re busy, period
Maybe you don’t have the necessary time to give to a relationship. It’s not fair to yourself or a partner if you are too tired or stressed. Life can get in the way of relationship easily when you’re young and in college, or work a full-time job. Starting your own life and getting your education are pretty high priorities, and sometimes, your love life just needs to be put on hold.
3. Commitments are scary
Regardless of what it is, commitments can be terrifying. The time, energy, and responsibility that goes into a relationship isn’t the pretty part that’s shown on Facebook or Instagram. Being single means that you have more time to prepare yourself for that.
4. More "you" time
Being single means that you can be selfish in a good way. If you’re like me, personal space is a must. I need that time alone to recuperate from the time I had to interact with the rest of the world. Also, if you have a random idea or desire, you can just do it without risk of disagreement from a partner.
5. You don’t have to share
Try to imagine having to cut your space in half. I can’t. As a “singleton,” you don’t have to have less than you want!
6. No dealing with nonstop communication
Personally, I’m terrible at keeping in touch with people. I don’t like living my life waiting for the next message. It can be nice to hear from people, or when people want to hear from you, but this way there aren’t any expectations.
You may think this point is a joking matter, but I assure you it’s not. Everyone has had the struggle of trying to choose what to watch with someone. But you’re one of the lucky ones who doesn’t have to! (or at least it’s less likely) Plus no one can judge your taste in movies or shows. Also, hello, non-stop binge watching…
I don’t mean to say that relationships are bad, but I refuse to believe that being single is either. These points are subjective, and maybe you personally don’t have issues regarding them in your life, but that doesn’t make them any less valid. You can learn to be okay with being single, and even more, you can choose to celebrate it.