It’s no secret that at this day and age most people want the same thing, and that’s an easy relationship with little commitment. That way, it’s easier not to feel when it comes crashing down, or so you don’t seem too “needy." I’m not saying everyone is like this, but most are now. As soon as a relationship shows the first sign of trouble, everyone wants to run out because they don’t want to put in the work to fix it.
I would consider myself a hopeless romantic for many reasons, and because of this I almost find it more difficult to hold onto a stable relationship because I can't find someone as committed as I am. However, my many expectations are just unreasonable.
1. I believe that my life will be like a movie.
The boy will show up at my doorstep in the pouring rain, begging for another chance, he'll kiss me so hard that I know he means it, then we'll be happy forever. I know that's not how it works, but why can't it? If my life was a movie, you'd already be back here.
2. Every date will be memorable in its own way.
Even if we're just eating chips and watching Netflix, being with you will make it magical, and I'll always remember it. And why you put more time into our days they'll never fade. However, looking back, I can't even recall what my past boyfriends were wearing on some of our best days.
3. He'll never forget me.
This is so unreasonable. I will be replaced, he won't think about me while listening to sad songs or love songs, he won't realize that it was a mistake to let me go, he won't sing me my favorite song to win me back. It's just crazy to put my faith into this.
4. Everyone will be jealous of us.
#RelationshipGoals. #NotRealistic. They'll actually probably get tired of us.
5. When you know, you know.
It's an age-old saying that I used to believe, but my heart has led me in the wrong direction so many times, so I'm not sure what to trust.
6. He'll respect my limits.
I respect yours, you respect mine. This is not an unreasonable request. No means no. Maybe means no. And consent means everything
7. He knows what upsets me, and how to fix it.
Yes, I'm a very emotional person. I will not apologize for that, and I do think that the person I will spend the rest of my life with needs to know how to help me, but my expectations for this perfect man to know exactly what to do are too high.
So yes, I am a hopeless romantic in a hook-up culture and yes, it is difficult. However, I don't see myself changing my values anytime soon. And who knows, maybe one day the boy will throw rocks at my window and hold up a boom box playing the song "How You Get The Girl" while it rains, as he realizes that I was worth the fight.
