Growing up, I've always struggled with making decisions, whether I was choosing what outfit to wear, what to eat at a restaurant, or choosing which college I should attend. I'd like to think the older I got, the better I was a making those decisions, but sometimes I wonder if I'll always struggle to make a decision. However, I feel like I'm not the only one out there who's been told "Hurry up and choose!" especially when it's out time to order. Here are 7 signs you might be indecisive:
1. Making a decision brings anxiety
You'd think we'd be choosing life or death here instead of which ice cream flavor we should eat. Seriously though, any decision brings anxiety.
2. You're afraid to make the wrong decision
So, our anxiety levels go up because we are so afraid that we'll make the wrong decision. What if I don't like that ice cream flavor? What if it doesn't go with my toppings? What if I don't like the major I chose? What if I don't like my job. All the wonderful "what if's" start jumping around our minds because..what if we make the wrong decision?
3. You over analyze EVERYTHING
Not only are we anxious and afraid to make the wrong decision, but now our brains over over analyzing everything. Suddenly, we are looking at all the small details about the decision we are about to make and all the the many different possible (not likely) outcomes.
4. Too many options
Now that our brain is on overload and analyzing the options, we start to think of all the other possible options we could make. One by one different choices start popping up and we think "Oh! See I could make choose that option, or that option, or that option..." (you get it). So now we feel anxious, we're afraid of making the wrong decision, our brain starts to over analyze each and every possible decision because, suddenly there become more.
5. Small decisions become big
Now that all of this is happening (mind you, this is all within 30 second to five minutes) what was a small easy decision become large and in charge. When a situation comes up and a decision needs to be made, it feels almost impossible to make one, even if it's small.
6. Frustrated
Now, people are frustrated. I mean, why can't they just decide? And I totally get that. How frustrating when you need us to make a decision and we won't or say we can't. How frustrating when we have to make a choice on something big and life changing like what college to attend, what job we should choose, what major we should study, where we should live, who we should live with, who we should date, who we should marry, etc. I mean it seems like it takes us five times longer to come to a decision than most. Trust me, I completely understand how frustrating it is because I frustrate myself.
7. Don't worry, it can get better
If there is anything I've learned in my hesitant filled life is it gets better. The older I get, the easier it is to make a decision and the easier it is to do if fast. Try to remember that making a decision will always be harder and practice making a decision and sticking with it. Don't look back.
Just have a little patience with us...we're getting there.
