Dating is tough. It's always been tough and it's probably always going to be tough. I can't think of a single change that the world could make to make dating any less tough. Here are 6 truths I've learned about dating that might make your journey just a tiny bit easier.
1) Sometimes a break up has nothing to do with you.
Sometimes people just aren't supposed to be together. Maybe you're just not compatible or maybe you're way too compatible. Either way, it's nobodies fault. Not every breakup needs to be a knock down drag out.
2) Sometimes a break up has everything to do with you.
You're a human being and you're going to make mistakes. Someone might dump you because you're at a selfish point in your life. You might not be the best listener. You might be really toxic for another person. You're not perfect and you're never going to be. When someone dumps you, learn from it. If someone feels that you hurt them, you don't get to decide that you didn't.
3) "Fixer uppers" aren't as romantic as they sound.
As cliche as it may sound, a lot of girls love the bad boys. There's a certain allure to being able to fix someone. We want to believe that we are the one person on this Earth that is going to change him. You're probably not that person. And if you are, it's going to take a lot of work. If you want to devote a part of your life to teaching a grown man how to treat you, be my guest.
4) Being "on again off again" is going out of style.
It's not cute or dramatic to tell me how many times you and your significant other have broken up and come running back to each other. I stopped listening after the 3rd time you broke up.
5) Fighting constantly isn't cute, it's emotionally abusive.
If you pick a fight with your significant other just so they'll feel like crap and tell you how much you mean to them, you've got a big problem. That kind of behavior is toxic and if you feel the need to act that way it might be time to find someone new.
6) It's easy to be confident in yourself when someone else is loving you.
If you feel completely crippled at the thought of someone leaving you, it's time to get help. It's okay to feel sad when your significant other is mad at you but at some point in your life you have to get comfortable being alone.
