Wow, world gone wild. Can we get a break from catastrophe? With the latest events in Dallas, the classic systemic racism argument is sprouting up suddenly. They say it's a war between wrong and right, but it's just not that black and white. I know where I stand, but I don't want to talk about my opinion. I want to share some advice when it comes to horrible situations like these. Every day strangers insult each other on social media with insane quarreling. Not only is it pathetic (and eerily reminiscent of kindergartners fighting over crayons), it's not helping. I thought of the numerous occasions in my life I have failed to do what I have listed below in fragile moments. My failures have assisted the composition of my advice on approaching social activism arguments.
1. Take a deep breath
Everyone please, after me. In through the nose, out through the mouth, and repeat. As Faith Hill would sing, "Just breathe." Easier said than done, especially when influenced by fear or anger, but it's what we need to think clearly in times of trouble. If you don't take a breath, you're going to explode. And most likely in an explosion of expletives on Facebook, which nobody wants to read. Anyhow, take a chill pill and think about what is going on now.
2. Put yourself in new shoes
Empathize with multiple perspectives. We all feel pain, fear, sadness and confusion from this situation. Death is a devastating reality for everyone. Your perspective isn't singular and universal, think outside the box. When you put yourself in somebody else's shoes, you realize just how tough life could be.
3. Listen carefully
The media is attempting to pit one side against another. Don't listen closely, listen carefully. There is truth somewhere among news reports, but it's like following Hansel and Gretel's breadcrumb trail and a flock of seagulls. There's not much to work with, but listen anyway. Listen carefully to discover small truths for yourself. Invest time in listening to discover the answers to valuable questions.
4. Agree to disagree
Arguments tend to arise frequently in times like these and people have forgotten how to argue. Every argument isn't the collegiate debate championship. We need more conversations in which we disagree and can still walk away as friends. No way! Is that even possible? Yep. Give it a try. Agreeing to disagree is refreshing. This requires a splash of empathy, a couple deep breaths, and listening ears at the ready.
5. Love one another
As I have already said, some will try to pit one side against another. People must love one another unconditionally in times like these. Love is an unstoppable force. Love floats gracefully on the deepest sea of hate.
6. Forgiveness
Most will probably say, "Why forgive a murderer?" Well, that's a valid question. All I know is forgiveness is powerful. It could possibly open doors to justice and forge the foundation of trust our country needs within the justice system.
Martin Luther King Jr. had a dream we would see a day when we all walked hand in hand down the street, unafraid. Hopefully, tips like these revive his dream and keep us all sane. Give them a try today. Just remember, one man can change the world.
