These are some signs of abuse to look for in a relationship. If several of these signs are actions that your partner is doing you may very well be in an abusive relationship. Not all abuse is physical or sexual. There is emotional/verbal abuse as well which is equally damaging. Emotional or verbal abuse can lead to physical or sexual abuse.
1. They Are Extremely Intense
Did they immediately want to meet your family? Do they text you all of the time? Did they say I love you unusually quick? Maybe they told you that you're soul mates or that it was love at first sight. This one is hard to accept as a sign of abuse but it could very well be one.
2. They Make Threats
These threats can be about leaving you, cutting you off financially, committing suicide or harming themselves physically if you leave or get angry at them for treating you poorly, harming you physically, et cetera.
3. They Have Inappropriate Behavior Towards The Opposite Se
Having sex with/kissing others while in an exclusive relationship with someone, telling people of the opposite sex things they should only say to their partner such as "I love you" or sexually provocative things.
4. Unreasonable Jealousy
This can often lead to or go hand and hand with isolation. Maybe they get jealous every time you spend time with your best friend of the same sex or your family. If it is an extreme jealousy it is their way of trying to convince you not to spend time with others so that you are isolated from those who truly love you.
5. They Blame You for Everything
Sometimes they will say things such as "I did/ said this because you..." when in reality they are responsible for their own actions. It could also be blaming you for any problem of theirs that you couldn't have possibly caused. Do you find yourself feeling guilty after they hurt you because you "made them feel bad" for it? This is usually what happens when they say you made me do it
6. They Put You Or People You Love Down
They say any number of insults to you "You're ugly without makeup", "That makes you look fat" "Why are you so stupid?" "You need to lose weight" "You're so annoying" "Do you ever stop talking?". Many times this takes place in front of other people. Do you feel humiliated a lot in social setting by your partners doing? This is a sign but it can also happen when you are alone with them. Insults can also be directed at your family or friends. "You're parents are such losers" "Is your friend ____ really that annoying?"
