Even though the tides are changing and women are having more power and more equality to men, there's still things that are expected of us and sometimes frowned upon when changed. Here's a list of 6 things that are already expected of me to be as a women.
1. Luxuries
You see a women driving down the road in a nice corvette, or you notice a women has really expensive clothing and accessories on. Your first thought isn't that she is independent and hard-working, nor that she earned all the luxuries she has. Your first thought is that that's her husbands car, or her dad or husband bought it for her, along with all those expensive clothes and accessories. It sucks that in this day and age, a women's success isn't recognized firsthand, and has to be proven in order for someone to believe it.
2. Knowing how things work/how to fix things
A women knows how to change oil? Not possible right? Wrong. I hate when people automatically assume that because of my gender, I don't know how to change a tire, change the oil, differentiate tools, or even shoot a gun all because of my gender. Things like that are good for any teenager/adult to know in case of any emergency or even just for general knowledge.
3. Being a housewife/running the home
This is a two person task when you're in a committed relationship or married. The man doesn't work a full-time job and his wife stay at home anymore. Both have a job now, and both also have the job to do the household duties and take care of each other and the home. Women also aren't the only people who can cook either. Men can cook and men can clean, and women can sit on the couch and watch sports while her husband cooks.
4. Jobs
A women's success in her work isn't taken nearly as seriously as a man's success in his. Especially when they have the same job. Women can do a lot of the same jobs a man can do, and just as well and efficiently too. Some people assume that women with children have part-time jobs in order to be able to spend the rest of their time at their "second job", taking care of the kids.
5. Taking care of the kids
Who takes the kids to school? Who picks them up? Who puts together all the parties and play-dates? The moms right. I don't understand why the dads can't be expected to do these things just as much as the moms do. Men are just as capable as raising kids as women are. Take single dads for example. They put in all the effort to raise their child and are pitied sometimes because they have to raise their child. Raising a child is like running a household in the sense of responsibilities. They should be equal between both parents.
6. Children
This one makes me the angriest. I myself can't wait to have kids of my own someday, and am constantly looking forward to it. However, there are many women out there who have no interest in having kids, whether it be for the time being or at all. And guess what, THAT'S OKAY. I hate that there are people out there who shame women that don't want to have kids. What makes me the saddest though, is when another woman degrades a woman who doesn't want kids. Sure, there are lots of women who want to have kids but physically cant, and there's always the option to adopt. But everyone needs to understand that you aren't living that person's life, and they can be allowed to make whatever choice they want. Having kids is a CHOICE, not an expectation.
So let us live our lives as our own special individual. We're happy doing what we're doing, or else we wouldn't be doing it. Appreciate the differences, and embrace the similarities, but never expect a stereotype.
