6 Reactions I Get When I Say I'm In A Sorority

6 Reactions I Get When I Say I'm In A Sorority

No, I don't pay for my friends.

6 Reactions I Get When I Say I'm In A Sorority
Zeta Eta Gamma Phi Beta

There are so many misconceptions and negative stereotypes about sororities. We have the media to thank for that. Sorority women are ultimately seen as dull yet beautiful women who have nothing to offer society other than our looks. But as any Greek woman knows, that's not the case at all. For many of us, going through sorority recruitment continues to be one of the best decisions of our lives. Our organizations have molded us into better women, teaching us responsibility, charity, and the true meaning of friendship. Unfortunately, we're still met with unpleasant assumptions. To illustrate, here are six reactions I get when I say I'm in a sorority.

1. "So you're just paying to make friends?"

This is the most common thing I hear when I say that I'm in a sorority. Yes, I pay dues every semester to be in a Greek organization. And yes, the money pays for different events that I enjoy with my sisters. But that in no way translates to paying for my friends. You pay fees for playing sports and joining other organizations and no one says a word, so why do Greek organizations have to explain themselves? Just because my friends happen to be in an organization I pay for, it doesn't mean I'm paying for their company. If I were, I'd be paying a lot more because our sisterhood is honestly priceless.

2. "You're in college to get an education, not party."

Really? I'm going to school to get a degree? I really had no idea. You know what I'm also going to college for? Experience. Being in a sorority gives me experiences I will remember for the rest of my life. Sure, some of them may involve having drinks with my sisters. But most of them consist of having people who are there for me no matter what, being a part of something bigger than ourselves.

3. "Aren't you worried about hazing?"

Why on Earth would I be worried about hazing? Going through recruitment and the period before initiation, my sisters did not haze anyone. And as we welcome new sisters into our chapter every semester, we don't even dream of hazing. We respect our new sisters and we recognize that humiliation does nothing to build friendships.

4. "You're not going to have time for the things that matter."

First of all, being a part of my sorority is something that matters. I make time for it like I would any other activity high on my list of priorities. Secondly, I would just like to boast that being in a sorority has never made me compromise the things that really matter. I have never had to sacrifice family time, studying, or my passions in favor of my organization. My sisters are so understanding and supportive of everything I do. My personal life has never been in competition with my sorority.

5. "Enjoy being a stuck up cookie cutter."

A misconception I hate about being in a sorority is that we have a lack of diversity. In every single sorority, you'll see a variety of girls. No two sisters are exactly alike. We have artists, singers, scholars, comediennes, and everything in between. And although there are a few bad egg snobs here and there, chapters are generally not "stuck up" once you get to know them.

6. "It's just not you."

If all of the awful stereotypes about sororities were true, I'd be inclined to agree with this statement. But because they're not, I'll argue that yes, being in a sorority IS me. Being a part of a sisterhood so loyal and true is me. Doing good, charitable work for a deserving philanthropy is me. While I might be an atypical sorority girl, I'm never going to be ashamed of being Greek because of ignorant stereotypes.

We as a society pride ourselves on allowing people to be who they are (without judgement), why do we forget that the second we hear someone is in a Greek organization? Being in a soroity is now a piece of me, so why judge why judge me the second you hear I am in one.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.

119 People Reveal How The Pandemic Has Affected Their Love Lives, And Honestly... Relatable

"I haven't been able to get out of the 'talking phase' with anyone."

The reality is, there's no part of life the pandemic hasn't affected. Whether it's your work life, your home life, your social life, or your love life, coronavirus (COVID-19) is wreaking havoc on just about everything — not to mention people's health.

When it comes to romance, in particular, people are all handling things differently and there's no "right way" of making it through, regardless of your relationship status (single, taken, married, divorced, you name it). So, some of Swoon's creators sought out to hear from various individuals on how exactly their love lives have been affected since quarantine began.

Keep Reading... Show less

We have all been there. Mindlessly scrolling through social media and then we see that post. We see someone we once saw a future with creating it with someone else. However this time it was really different. A lot of times when we say we are happy for someone we don't really mean it.

Keep Reading... Show less
Photo by Samuel Branch on Unsplash

Affirmations affirm beliefs that we are in need of strengthening. They help up to focus on goals that we are striving for or on a powerful part of ourselves that we need a little reminder is within us.

They specifically focus on positive outcomes or belief systems that we're working to solidify, rather than solely focusing action on eradicating something "bad" or "wrong" from your life.

Keep Reading... Show less

About a year ago, I began my own fitness journey. Growing up, I had played soccer and kept busy, but after an injury cut my soccer career short I suddenly became very inactive. It took years of misfires before I finally found a new active passion for weight lifting. Getting started is never easy, and setting up for success is the best plan of action to assist anyone in your life who is thinking about starting their own journey. These are a few items you can gift for the fitness rookie in your life:

Keep Reading... Show less

Nordstrom's Biggest Sale Has The Most Legendary Deals On Luxury Beauty Brands We've Ever Seen

Counting down the days to the Chanel box set gracing my front door.

I oftentimes (excessively) use the excuse of my job as a writer to justify my excessive spending habits.

I needed the new Huda Beauty palette before anyone else in the name of journalistic integrity. It was my job to test out the new Francis Kurkdjian fragrance to make sure I could tell people whether or not it was truly worth the splurge (it was).

Keep Reading... Show less

Some people are so good at downplaying their sadness that even they don't realize how much they do it. When you ask them how they are they will always say that they are good, even when they aren't. They exhaust themselves by plastering an energetic and carefree persona in the spaces that you watch them in because at least to you they can control how they appear. They can pretend to be the happy person they want to be when everyone is telling them how funny and bubbly they are all the time.

Keep Reading... Show less

Mental health is not an easy endeavor. It's not a fad. It's not a bandwagon that you can hop on and off of whenever you want to. Your yearly dose of sadness is not depression. I'm not here to define what depression — or anxiety, or any other type of mental health issue looks like — but I will tell you what it's not.

Keep Reading... Show less
Photo by Sonnie Hiles on Unsplash

Whether it's dealing with a global pandemic or getting fired from your job, the fear of not knowing can become consuming if it isn't controlled. Below are some easy ways to take back control and establish a peace of mind.

Keep Reading... Show less

My South Asian Roots Inspire My Future Career As Both A Scientist And Journalist — Here's How

Being born to culturally diverse parents, I feel like I have the best of both worlds!

Erikka Chowdhury

To all of those who don't know me, I'm an American girl with South Asian parents who have carved their own niche as immigrants in the USA.

Keep Reading... Show less

The beaches are starting to open up. At least in Cape Cod, where my family and I were able to vacation this week. Near our house, we have a bit of a private beach, which is great.

Keep Reading... Show less

I sometimes look back at the days when I had anorexia and think to myself what would have happened if I had taken another bite? Nowadays, I spend days dreading over my figure and wondering if the old sundresses and outfits even fit. I tell myself that they do, but I feel like reality holds a different truth.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments