Ways To Deal With A Cheater
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Deal With A Cheater Like A Boss With These 5 Tips

Many of us know how it feels to be cheated on... but how do we fix it?

Sophia Tyrteos
Sep 18, 2018
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The worst kind of pain is when the person you invested in and loved betrays you. I've had my share of experiences when it comes to infidelity and wanting to believe it was the last time.

1. Stop blaming yourself

Usually, after finding out you're significant other cheated, you immediately ask yourself "what did I do wrong?" But the only person to blame is the one who actively chose to betray your trust. If they love you, there is no excuse to cheat.

2. Don't take them back

Being the girl who got back together with the guy who cheated on her, I can say it only hurts more in the end. We inevitably had the same fights and the trust was gone. Not all repeat their mistakes, but most cheaters never change.

3. Improve yourself 

Although you should never blame yourself, it is important to look at what went wrong in the relationship and work on what you can improve with the next person. Everyone has flaws and bad habits and identifying them will benefit you and your next relationship.

4. No communication 

We all know how tempting it is at 3 a.m. or when you're tipsy, to look for their number and send a quick "hey" but all that's going to do is give your ex more power and ability to hurt you again. I don't want to be cynical but nothing good ever comes from texting your ex no matter how long you were together or how much you think you loved each other.

5. Remember the good times but that's it

It's so easy to feel resentment and anger towards someone who threw away your love but try to remember the good moments and leave it at that. At one point in time they were your everything and although things have ended, look back on them as a positive, learning experience. It makes moving on so much easier.

No matter how many articles you read, the only way to feel better about your partner cheating is to let them go. I promise you will be okay again and find someone who appreciates you.

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