5 Ways To Get Rid Of Toxic Friends In 2019

5 Ways To Get Rid Of Toxic Friends In 2019

"You can love them, forgive them, want good things for them… but still move on without them."
Mandy Hale

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With the new year approaching, it's always the best time to donate old clothes you don't wear anymore, trying to stop bad habits, and getting rid of toxic friends in your life.

Is there someone in your life who's manipulative? You know, the friend who guilt trips you into doing something you don't want to do. Maybe there's someone in your life who's verbally, emotionally, or mentally abusive? Someone who you don't quite enjoy hanging around but still continue to do so for whatever reason you can't really explain? Well, this upcoming new year is the best time to let that negativity go.

It shouldn't take a new year to initiate that change, but sometimes it's the push we need.

I get it, it's easier said than done but think about how amazing it would feel to no longer have that toxic individual in your life. Life's way too short to be spending it with people who aren't worth our time. A new year constitute growth and change, how are you ever going to develop into the best version of yourself if you continue to swarm yourself with this negative influence in your life? Here are a few things you could do to cut ties peacefully with your toxic friends.

1. Stop Accepting Invitations To Hangout 

Karen x Mean Girls

The first step to ending a toxic friendship is to stop accepting invitations to hang out with them. No more guilty trips into a long night out or something you don't want to do. You need to understand it's okay to say no to something you don't want to do and you don't owe anyone anything.

2. Make New Friends 

Jess x New Girl

Who needs toxic friends in your life when you could have someone who shares the same interests, ambitions, and positivity as you?

3. Delete Them Off Social Media

Nobody wants to keep tabs on an individual who brings others down, bye!

4. Try New Experiences Alone 

Sometimes that toxic friend in your life could be a very close friend of yours. It's going to be hard, but you'll thank yourself later for it. Nobody loves you more than you so go out and try new things alone. Take yourself out on dates, buy yourself nice things, and surround yourself with love and good energy.

5. Be Honest 

Just be honest. Let them know how you're feeling and why this decision to remove yourself from this friendship is for the sake of your well-being, not theirs. Your happiness should always be your number one priority.

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An Open Letter To My Unexpected Best Friend

You came out of nowhere and changed my life for the better.
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“It’s so amazing when someone comes to your life and you expect nothing out of it but suddenly there right in front of you is everything you ever need.”

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Dear Unexpected Best Friend,

You were the person I never thought I would speak to and now you are my very best friend. You came out of nowhere and changed my life for the better. I can’t thank you enough for everything you have done to shape me into the person I am today. You’ve taught me what it means to be selfless, caring, patient, and more importantly adventurous.

You don’t realize how much better my life has become and all because you came out of nowhere. I didn’t see you coming. I just saw you on occasion, and now I can’t see my life without you in it. It’s funny how life works itself out like that. Our unexpected friendship filled a hole in my life that I didn’t know existed.

I don’t even remember what life was like before you came along; it most likely had a lot less laughter and spontaneity than it does today. I can call you about anything and you would drop whatever you're doing to help me in any situation. You know when I need encouragement. You know when I am at my best and when I am at my worst. You always know exactly what to say.

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I couldn’t have found a better friend than you if I tried. We balance each other out in the best way possible. You are most definitely the ying to my yang, and I don’t care how cliché that sounds. Because of you, I’ve learned to stop caring what people think and to do my own thing regardless of any backlash I might receive. You are my very favorite part of what makes me who I am to this day.

It’s as if I wished up a best friend, and poof—you appeared right in front of me. I am so beyond blessed to have you and I wouldn’t trade the world for all our memories. Thanks for coming out of nowhere.

Love you forever and a day.

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I'm Proud Of My Friends Because They Show Me The True Meaning Of Love Every Day

In the midst of a competitive, harsh society of school and work, my friends teach me everyday what it means to love.

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Every Christmas, our friend group does Secret Santa, our little way of celebrating the holiday season even when all of us can't meet up at one time over the break. And every summer, we all meet up with each other and spend the entire day together, taking a slew of pictures and laughing nonstop.

I've come to realize in the past school year that competitive energy can bring out the worst in people, especially the ones you expected it from the least. But I have not seen my friends waver once against the hard, cold face of competition. They've stayed completely true to themselves and the bonds they have with their close friends.

One of my friends is one of the only people I spend more time with during the day than I do by myself. She and I are currently part of a philanthropic program dedicated to raising money for blood cancer research, and we think of each other as sisters.

She and I have shared tears, memories and laughs so close to me that I will never forget the impact she has left on my life. She has changed me as a person, and I think that's what it means to love. As one of my best friends, she teaches me every single day of my life what it means to be a strong, fearless woman.

I see a lot of my friends only once in a while, but it makes me think about the fact that no matter how little we get to see each other, we still have that same appreciation and respect for one another that started the friendship in the first place.

No matter how close I consider myself to each person I call a friend, they all think about me even when they don't need to. They give me little tokens and pep talks when I'm feeling down and make sure to focus on making me cheerful when I'm not myself. They carry themselves with so much emotional elegance, and I have never been more thankful to be a part of their lives.

Every single day that I see them, they teach me how to be a better person.

What makes me proudest of my friends is that they are not afraid to put me in my place. Everything they say to me is out of concern for my well-being, but they always make sure to tell me when I'm wrong. It's something I disliked at first (considering sugarcoating was just a way of hiding the truth when I didn't want to hear it) but came to enormously respect.

They teach me the meaning of love everyday by molding me into a combination of tough love and empathy.

The friend who fights by my side everyday against blood cancers gives me a hug at the first sign that I'm not happy, but she doesn't hesitate to stop me when I start blaming other details for my mistakes. The friends who love giving gifts every holiday season to show their love when we can't see each other are the same people who explain to me the rational reasoning of a situation when my emotions take over. The friends who I see only a few times a month also teach me that there is value to having distant friends who aren't always there.

It's so strange how much I've changed because of the people I've surrounded myself with because I always say I'll stay true to myself. But I'm a mix of their individual personalities, and I've never been happier.

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