5 Ways To Get Rid Of Toxic Friends In 2019

5 Ways To Get Rid Of Toxic Friends In 2019

"You can love them, forgive them, want good things for them… but still move on without them."
Mandy Hale

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With the new year approaching, it's always the best time to donate old clothes you don't wear anymore, trying to stop bad habits, and getting rid of toxic friends in your life.

Is there someone in your life who's manipulative? You know, the friend who guilt trips you into doing something you don't want to do. Maybe there's someone in your life who's verbally, emotionally, or mentally abusive? Someone who you don't quite enjoy hanging around but still continue to do so for whatever reason you can't really explain? Well, this upcoming new year is the best time to let that negativity go.

It shouldn't take a new year to initiate that change, but sometimes it's the push we need.

I get it, it's easier said than done but think about how amazing it would feel to no longer have that toxic individual in your life. Life's way too short to be spending it with people who aren't worth our time. A new year constitute growth and change, how are you ever going to develop into the best version of yourself if you continue to swarm yourself with this negative influence in your life? Here are a few things you could do to cut ties peacefully with your toxic friends.

1. Stop Accepting Invitations To Hangout 

Karen x Mean Girls

The first step to ending a toxic friendship is to stop accepting invitations to hang out with them. No more guilty trips into a long night out or something you don't want to do. You need to understand it's okay to say no to something you don't want to do and you don't owe anyone anything.

2. Make New Friends 

Jess x New Girl

Who needs toxic friends in your life when you could have someone who shares the same interests, ambitions, and positivity as you?

3. Delete Them Off Social Media

Nobody wants to keep tabs on an individual who brings others down, bye!

4. Try New Experiences Alone 

Sometimes that toxic friend in your life could be a very close friend of yours. It's going to be hard, but you'll thank yourself later for it. Nobody loves you more than you so go out and try new things alone. Take yourself out on dates, buy yourself nice things, and surround yourself with love and good energy.

5. Be Honest 

Just be honest. Let them know how you're feeling and why this decision to remove yourself from this friendship is for the sake of your well-being, not theirs. Your happiness should always be your number one priority.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.
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Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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Shoutout To My Parents For Giving Me My Best Friend In The Form Of A Younger Brother

He's not as bad as I first anticipated.

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This is a story about my best friend.

I was lucky enough to have a built-in bestie from the day he came home with my parents and I immediately questioned who they stole the "creature" from.

My brother's name is Andrew and he and I have always had a catty but close relationship, which has developed into something I wouldn't trade for the world.

When we were younger we were the most jocular kids you could find and spent our days running around with our school friends shooting each other with nerf guns, hiding in every corner to leap out and give the other a heart attack.

We would hang out for hours until someone antagonized the other (Andrew was always the trouble maker) and yelled for our mom to intervene, or took out our ager by practicing our yellow belt karate skills on each other until our fake punches got to be too much and we would die laughing.

I never realized how special my relationship with my brother was until I heard how my friends talked out their siblings. My friends would endlessly complain about how much they hated their brother or sister and wished they were never born; and me, being who I am, would be shocked that they used the h-word, and tell them that they must still love them which they would relentlessly deny.

Seeing these failing relationships taught me to cherish what my brother and I have, and that is honestly the most important responsibility, and gift, I could've ever been given.

Looking back, the best childhood memories I have include him, and I wouldn't have it any other way. From founding the science club (his closet that we would do experiments in, and give our friends golf balls with their name on it as a key), to sledding down a three-foot hill in our neighbor's backyard for hours, to surfing and boogie boarding until we turned to prunes, to the endless games of HORSE we played (I don't understand how I'm still terrible at basketball), he's been with me.

Since then, our relationship has blossomed into much more than snow wrestling and movie binging; now as an adult, coming home from college is the most stress relieving and exciting time, because I know I get to hang out with my brother and talk about the most obscure things until he makes me get out of his room (because teenage angst, you know!!).

Thankfully, the required familial love has turned into a never-ending love for my best friend and little brother, and I can't wait to keep growing up side by side and to see what the world has in store for us.


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