First things first, by "aggressive," I mean awesome.
The technical definition of aggressive is pursuing one's aims and interests forcefully, sometimes unduly so.
But we all know it really means awesome.
Being aggressive is not an insult, it’s a compliment.
An aggressive attitude usually comes with an ambitious nature. And both of these qualities will serve you well in school and in the work place.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t always translate in social settings or with the opposite sex.
If a dude can’t handle your aggressive nature, can him.
And if anyone is turned off or offended by your aggressive personality, can them too. (Or if you can’t, just ignore their negativity).
Aggressive girls are not attention-seeking or bitchy.
In fact, some hate being the center of attention. They simply have a lot to say sometimes, and don’t mind taking charge of situations.
Some people view this as intimidating or bossy. Those people suck. So let’s hear it for the aggressive girls. Don’t ever lose your edge, because that’s what makes you special.
Here are some aggressive-girl tips.
1. Embrace the bitch face.
This goes for many girls and guys for that matter. The bitch face is a growing epidemic. But if you have both a bitch face and an aggressive personality, people might jump to conclusions. Screw those people. Your face may just not look pleasant everyday, all of the time. If people take the time to get to know you, they’ll find that you’re a regular Betty White from "Golden Girls," ready to hear about their day over a drink.
2. Don’t let people tell you to “calm down.”
No one should ever tell you to “calm down.” The phrase in general is derogatory and rude. It might be OK if you’re literally acting out-of-control to a point where others’ lives are in physical danger? Or if you’re in a business meeting and you’re jumping on the conference table? But if you’re out on the town and just excited or pumped up, do not allow someone to tell you to “calm down.” I have let someone say that to me in the past, and just ignored it. But if someone ever tells you to “calm down,” I suggest a new system of reaction in which you either: Immediately make a scene (oh, the irony), or, say “no, you calm down” like a 5 year old, and then dance away employing extremely awkward or suggestive dance moves.
3. Guys associate aggressive and short with cute, and aggressive and tall with obnoxious...ignore it and move on.
This is a thing. I have seen it throughout my years growing up. Dudes respond to short girls with a sharp tongue with adoration, and tall girls with a sharp tongue with utter confusion (sometimes). I’m not sure why height factors into the equation. Don’t lose your sharp tongue and don’t wear flats to the bar (unless you want to). Ignore this weirdness if it occurs, and move on.
4. Take “I’m scared of you" as a compliment.
The other night I had a brief conversation with a dude I met in a pizzeria in NYC. I told him not to buy a $40 large pie as it was a “ridiculous rip off,” which it was. The dude abided by my warnings and said, “I don’t know why, but I’m kind of scared of you, but I mean that as the highest compliment.” And I took it as such. If speaking my mind with no filter scares people, I’m going to continue to do it, and so should you. Because let’s face it, it’s kind of awesome to be able to scare a grown man.
5. Older dudes dig aggressive chicks.
This is also a thing (most times). Guys aren’t a big factor in my life right now, but if you’re looking to date, older dudes may be the way to go. I can’t really explain why, because I honestly do not know why. But older dudes tend to respond better to more driven women and that is kind of cool. Score one for the aggressors.
In conclusion, aggressive girls are spirited and that ain’t a crime.
We’re not bitches and even if we are, in the wise words of Tina Fey, “Bitches get stuff done.”
Guys never get told to “calm down” when they’re out having a good time together, and neither should we.
Well-behaved women seldom make history, am I right?
Our ancestors didn’t protest outside the White House for the right to vote, and some of our grandmas didn’t stay home to help support the family while their brothers got to attend school, and our moms didn’t make huge strides in the work place for us to give a single crap about intimidating anyone.
It’s 2016. So say what you mean, because two women are running for president and I bet they never let anyone tell them to “calm down.”
