Come December I will proudly be able to say my boyfriend and I have withstood the struggles of a long distance relationship for two years. I'm not gonna sugarcoat it, long distance sucks, and if you ca avoid one, I'd probably advise you too. Through all of the absence and lonely feelings, though, I can say our relationship is 100% stronger and has a better foundation because of it.
Dealing with the distance gets tough. It's hard seeing happy couples all the time, knowing mine is hundreds of miles away. I love giving advice to other couples and people, but there are just certain things people say to me that get on my last nerve.
1. "Jesus, why are you on your phone so much?"
I won't lie, I'm addicted to social media just as much as the next basic millennial, but when you're in an LDR, your phone becomes a lifeline. I look at my phone as if it's a part of my boyfriend, because without it, I'd have no communication with him. We text throughout the day with the occasional calls and face times and without them, our relationship wouldn't be as strong as it is.
2. "You really think he's not cheating on you?"
Yeah, I really do. While I can't speak for other people's relationships, I trust in mine and know that we have a stronger relationship because of the distance. The amount of work it takes to make it work wouldn't be worth it to throw away by one night with someone else. I'm proud that I have someone I can fully trust in a world full of f*ckboys, too.
3. "Don't you want, like, a real relationship?"
lol, what? Please, define for me what real is. Isn't a "real" relationship one with love, compassion and caring for the other person? Doesn't a "real" relationship involve work? Doesn't a "real" relationship mean trusting the other person, confiding in them, and being their rock? Please, please explain to me how a long distance relationship is any different. Just because we aren't physically together 24/7 does not make our relationship any less real. In fact, comparing my relationship to many others that I know, we have it better than most.
4. "I would never be in a long distance relationship."
Okay, great, so don't.
5. "I haven't seen my boyfriend in 3 days!!!"
Please, complain to me some more about how you haven't seen your significant other in a few days or weeks. Try not seeing them or feeling them for months at a time. :)
I love being in a long distance relationship, and wouldn't change it for the world, but please refrain from saying these things to me before I lose my mind.
