We all have one. The ex-boyfriend/girlfriend we know isn't good for us or anyone for that matter, yet we can't seem to let go. Maybe it's their eyes, their laugh, or the fact that they're a jerk. Humans are strange, but we always seem to like the assholes. The fact of the matter is, we need to get over them.
I, for one, have a few exes. I'd say every single one of them are pieces of work. That might just be because we aren't together anymore, or it could be the fact that they truly are horrible people. We'll never really know, but anyway, I've developed a 5 step process to help my fellow single people out there get over their no good exes.
Step 1:
Delete their number. DO NOT block them unless they were abusive or begin stalking you (trust me... it happens). Blocking them only makes things worse. Some people advise to simply stop texting or calling your loser ex, but by getting rid of their number in your contacts, you eliminate half the temptation and the ability to do so. And I know what you're thinking, "couldn't I just get his/her number from my friends after I delete it?" TELL YOUR FRIENDS NOT TO. FRIENDS: YOU HAVE TO BE THE BAD GUYS. IT'S THE ONLY WAY THIS WILL WORK.
Step 2:
Take down pictures on social media. Change your profile picture to a picture of you and a good friend. Just changing it to a selfie, no matter how bangin' the selfie is, will only remind you that you're alone. Even if you're alone because your ex wasn't as awesome of a person as you are, being alone still kind of sucks at first. Just make sure you look super hot in that new pic. Show the world you're better without them!
Step 3:
Talk shit. Get together with your friends and just talk all the shit you want because it helps.
Step 4:
Spend some time alone. Read a book. Watch a movie, preferably a comedy, stay away from romance. Eat an entire tub of ice cream. Do you booboo, and realize how great it feels to do whatever you want without having to please someone else.
Step 5:
Remember that it takes time. Give yourself time to grieve over the relationship. The fact of the matter is, even though it was toxic and not meant to be, it's still okay to miss your ex. Don't beat yourself up for crying or looking at their Instagram profile (though I would suggest unfollowing them). Don't think of your path to getting over your ex as linear; you can go backwards one day and go forward the next.
It's not easy to get over your ex, no matter if they were good for you or downright awful. Everyone goes through breakups differently, but these are the steps that have helped me.
And remember- being single isn't the end of the world. It kind of rocks.
