5 Signs Your Relationship Is Complicated

5 Signs Your Relationship Is Complicated

The wild world of dating.

When I was in middle school, people constantly made their relationship status on Facebook “It’s complicated." I didn’t know if people were joking or trying to hint at someone they had a crush on. All I know is that, now, I’m in college and I feel like not much has changed. Life is complicated— people are breaking up, hooking up and making up. It is a wild world out there and if any of these things remind you of your dating life, you’re not alone.

1. Your feelings towards your loved one are always changing

One week you can’t get enough of them; you want to see them every day and everything is sunshine and rainbows. However, the next week everything they do or say pisses you off and start ignoring their texts and talking crap about them to your friends. Your relationship is so on/off that you’re just going with the flow and you don't really know what’s going on half of the time.

2. Your friends either love your significant other or hate them

This goes along with number one. Things are obviously a little complex between you two and your friends only see your side of the relationship, however, your friends' opinion of your significant other all depends on the timing of your latest gossip and coffee sesh with your BFF. Your friend might have caught you guys on a good week and you seem totally happy; therefore, they love them. If it just so happens they hear about this new love interest on an off night where your new SO is being a total a**hole, your friend will probably sh*t talk them forever. Note: the situation is all the more confusing if your squad hasn’t even met said SO in-person.

3. You both like each other but your lives get in the way

You both have complicated schedules. Maybe you’re both in school or you’re trying to focus on yourself while they're trying to focus on their self. You like each other and you have fun when you’re together, but when you’re apart you wonder where all of it is going. Sometimes it is hard to make time for each other. Whether you are both going through life transitions or you live in different cities — everything equals an “it’s complicated” status.

4. Your conversations about the relationship or feelings are something out of a TV Drama

You might feel like your arguments or discussions about the relationship are straight out of "Twilight." Whether it’s “don’t fall for me” or “we’re not good for each other” the theatrics are always to the max.

5. The inevitable question, “is this even a relationship?" constantly emerges

There’s so much going on in college; you’re trying to find yourself, make good grades, not go totally insane with stress, make new friends and learn to be on your own. It’s hard to make something work when everything in your life is changing all at once. With that being said, focus on what makes you happy and try not to worry.

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I'd Give Up The Idea Of Perfection Any Day To Be With My Imperfect Boyfriend

You are exactly who I need in my life, and I can only hope that I am half of that for you.

To My Imperfect Boyfriend,

You’re far from perfect. Sometimes, you do things that drive me absolutely insane and frustrate me to no end. You make mistakes—a lot of them.

Growing up, we all had this idea in our heads of who we wanted to be with. Our own idea of a “perfect” person: the perfect person we would wake up next to, with the perfect sunrise hitting our perfect faces, cook a perfect gourmet breakfast within our perfect home on a perfect beach.

The more time I spend with you, the more I realize a few things: how completely unrealistic it is to be with a perfect person, and that I would give up the idea of “perfection” any day to be with you.

You’re my best friend, always by my side supporting me through all my crazy ideas, and doing everything you can to make sure I know how much you love me. You’re there for me when I need you, and you know exactly what kind of stupid things to say to make me smile, even if I’m in an impossibly bad mood—even if you caused it.

When it comes to me, you are completely selfless, treating me like I’m the only thing in your life that matters. Your devotion to me is more than admirable. You’re my security and my sanity— even though you’re not always sane yourself, we keep each other sane. Perhaps one of my favorite things about you is your determination to make me happier than I’ve ever been. Even when you don’t know how to be the best for me, you keep trying until you do. I’ve never met someone who has tried harder for anything else.

You’ve taught me how to see imperfection as the most beautiful thing there is.

I don’t want you to be perfect. I want you to have all your quirks, all your tendencies, all your attributes: all the things that make you perfectly imperfect. The issue with perfection is that there is no room for growth, and this whole relationship is about learning from each other and growing together.

You know what the best part is?

I’m not perfect either.

I don’t expect you to see me as perfect. Sometimes, I do things that drive you absolutely insane—and frustrate you to no end. I make mistakes—a lot of them.

But you love me for who I am, and you are more than willing to share this journey of life with me, despite potential bumps along the way. I see you as a person I can grow with, have adventures with, and face life’s many challenges with forever.

It’s funny; I guess all your imperfections make you perfect to me. You are exactly who I need in my life, and I can only hope that I am half of that for you.

Love always,

Your Imperfect Girlfriend

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12 Unexpected Perks Of Being Best Friends With A Guy Before You Date

Dating becomes a whole lot simpler.

Dating can be really rough sometimes. It's not always easy to find your person in the world...unless your person was already right in front of your face the whole time. There's nothing I love about my relationship more than the fact that my boyfriend was genuinely my best friend before he was anything else. Here are just some of the perks of being best friends before you date.

1. You already know each other's quirks and habits

Like the fact that he snores, is awful at responding while playing video games, gets distracted easily and is all-around a slightly awkward human.

2. As well as their likes and dislikes.

Ordering food for him from just about anywhere is a breeze.

3. And you already know what they're like in relationships.

You've watched one another date enough to know exactly what they're like when they're dating someone. You also know what drives them crazy in relationships, which helps avoid fights.

4. Meeting the family is a walk in the park.

Chances are either you've already met them or you've heard enough about them to make things much smoother.

5. You have common interests and likes.

You'll likely never hear us argue over where to eat or what music to listen to, I can promise you that.

6. You don't get tired of seeing them.

Sure, they might still get on your nerves, but that doesn't change the fact you love spending time together.

7. Comfortable silences.

We can sit on the couch playing on our phones or doing our own thing and still be content.

8. Things are never awkward between you.

You don't care if I pick up tampons while we're out, do you?

9. No conversations are off limits.

Not even bowel movements.

10. You have fun together easily.

They can make the most boring things more interesting. Your sides have actually hurt from laughing so much with them.

11. No ones shocked when you get together.

When I told my other friends who I was dating literally no one was surprised at all.

12. Things are natural between you.

Being with my boyfriend is easier than it's ever been with anyone else before. We've genuinely cared about each other for so long and have been so close for years that dating just works. Nothing has changed between us; we're still best friends, just best friends that happen to be together.

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