We are all fighting battles, whether they be internal quarrels, or full-blown wars with depression or anxiety. As we continue through Mental Health Awareness month, it is vital to turn our focus to these battles, and understand how common they truly are. Most likely, you know someone who deals with depression or anxiety, and it's important to be aware of fact and fiction about these mental illnesses. Here are five things to keep in mind about those with these kinds of mental health issues:
1.) Depression and anxiety are REAL
While you cannot see it as easily as a broken arm, mental illness is just as severe. According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, depression affects around 15.7 million adults in the US, while anxiety affects approximately 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and older, or 18% of the population, making it the most common mental illness. If someone around you is acting strange, don't brush it off. Take people's feeling seriously, and try not to assume what others think or feel. These illnesses are not made-up.
2.) Never Assume an Illness is a "Cry for Attention"
If a loved one or friend ever confides in you that they suffer from depression or anxiety, never assume it's a cry for attention. Usually, when someone dealing with a mental illness and lets you know, it means they trust you. It doesn't mean they are being "dramatic" or begging to be noticed. Depression and anxiety are not to be suffered alone, therefore it is vital you believe the reality of these illnesses, and never betray that trust.
3.) Be Patient and Understanding
If you know, or even suspect someone around you is dealing with a mental illness, be patient and understanding. Never make anyone feel as though they are a burden just because of a mental illness they can't control. There are varying levels of depression and anxiety, so be aware that they could be in more pain than you think. As a general rule, try to be there for those who trust you, but especially for someone has trusted you with their struggles.
4.) Find Out Personally What Helps
Everyone is unique; therefore, not everyone suffers from the same degree or type of depression or anxiety. I interviewed someone I know who has lived with depression, and they stated, "I think people often try to put people in this tiny box labeled 'depressed.' No one actually fits in that box." This idea of the 'box' also applies to those with anxiety. No one fits into a specific category, meaning that when it comes to coping, each individual requires something different. Get to know those around you better, learn what people are comfortable or uncomfortable with, and adapt to it. Chances are, if you ask, the individual will tell you what helps them cope, and you can learn to work together from there.
5.) Be Kind to Those Around You--You Never Know
Honestly, you never know who is going through mental health issues like depression or anxiety. People who appear very happy and bubbly are just as likely to suffer from a mental health issue than anyone else because In reality, there is no "normal." As a general rule, try your best to treat people with kindness, and the world will be a safer, better place.
This Mental Health Awareness Month, try to be aware of how common mental health issues like depression and anxiety are. Don't assume someone suffering from anxiety or depression is being dramatic, and try to be patient and understanding. Get to know what helps those suffering cope with their illness, and finally, be kind to those around you. With these five points in mind, have a safe October and let's all try to help each other out with our individual battles.
