As of lately, there have been quite a few memes circulating throughout college-aged Millenial women that talk about dropping out of school, giving up on any career ambitions and becoming a "trophy wife." If you don't know, a "trophy wife" is a term commonly used for young, attractive women that are married to older (usually rich) powerful men, whose time is spent being spoiled, having babies and staying at home with 24-hour luxury. While the thought of that lifestyle may sound appealing at first (because who wouldn't want to be a wifey in a Range Rover?!), I am actually disgusted that a trophy wife is something that many girls my age are actually aspiring to be.

I could probably write a novel about why I will never aspire to be a trophy wife, but I don't have that kind of time, because I'm too busy grinding day in and day out so that I don't have to be a trophy wife, so here are five reasons why I will never aspire to be a trophy wife.

1. I am not an object to be paraded around and shown off as just another accomplishment of a powerful man.

I am a woman, not an asset. And what astonishes me most is that a large majority of the women who are sharing these memes and making these jokes about aspiring to be a trophy wife are the same women who are complaining that women are not equal to men, preaching feminism and marching through city streets wearing vagina hats. How do they expect women to ever be viewed as "equal" to men in the workplace if they are aiming to objectify themselves as a piece of arm candy to a rich man?

2. I have my own dreams, goals, and ambitions.

Since I was a little girl, the answer to the question "what do you want to be when you grow up?" has been nothing short of ambitious. Answers such as veterinarian, doctor, president, astronaut and of course, princess were most likely to come out of my mouth. Not much has changed now that I'm older. I'm a single mom, I hold a full-time job and I am maintaining a 4.0 GPA as a psychology major. I am determined to prove to my daughter that no matter what life throws at her, the fact that she is a woman will never inhibit her from doing whatever she sets her mind to. I have my own plans for life, and I pray that my future husband will encourage me to chase my dreams, instead of using me as nothing but a piece of his.

3. I will not allow my life to be dictated solely by my husband.

I strongly believe that married couples should act as a team, as opposed to one being dominant over the other. I have a very strong personality, and I am not ashamed to say that my tenacity is one of my strongest traits. Becoming a trophy wife would entail being told what to do, and when to do it. That isn't how a marriage is supposed to work. If I'm going to have sex with my husband, I am going to do so because I love him, not because I feel obligated to. If I am going to bare his children, it is going to be because we both want to grow our family, not because I am there to breed his pedigree.

4. I don't want to have to ask for permission every time I want to buy or do something.

While I believe that in a marriage, money is money and what's mine is yours, I just don't think that I could deal with having to ask for permission to buy new shoes or go out to lunch with my friends. And when a trophy wife buy's her husband a gift, isn't he really buying himself a gift, since he is the sole breadwinner? I will appreciate all that my husband does for my family and I, and I will want to show him that appreciation by doing my part both in the house and financially.

5. My appearance is not a status symbol.

A woman's success shouldn't be measured by her outward appearance. When people look at me and my husband, I don't want the first thing they say is "wow, your wife is so pretty." I want them to notice the way I love and support my husband and my family. I want them to notice how much I love my career, and how hard I have worked to get to where I am. I want them to notice how much I love being a mother and how much I love being a wife. The first thing you notice about a trophy wife is her appearance, and then the age difference between her and her husband. I am so much more than what I look like on the outside, and I don't want my reputation to be based on nothing by my appearance.

I will never aspire to be a trophy wife, because I respect myself, and I respect women as a whole.