Definition: a parent who pays extremely close attention to a child's experiences and problems.
Basically, the parents hover over their children and at times, are overbearing.
1. I have learned from my mistakes and failures.
My grandmother never excused my mistakes and failures. I was told I was wrong, and I had to figure out how to fix it. I was never given a solution, only suggestions. This has helped me so much in my life-- when given an obstacle, I at least know eventually I will be able to overcome it instead of running to my nana to fix my big-girl problems for me. Of course, it is always nice to have someone to fall back on, and she will always be there for me, but I know that even without her help and guidance I can get through all that life throws my way-- even this UT sickness that has taken root in my dorm.
2. I have a sense of independence.
Since I was 7, I have gone away to sleep-away camp. While encouraged, it was not mandatory for me to leave from 2-10 weeks every summer up until I turned 16. I loved it. Being away from home for so long every summer gave me a sense and feel of independence. While I had fun at my summer camps and made new friends, I never truly appreciated the independence I had gained until my senior year of high school. I learned I liked doing things on my own, and that I didn't mind it. This was not only helpful socially, but also educationally. I thrived on projects or assignments that were to be done alone, while other kids struggled without the help of an extra mind. I'm thankful my nana kept giving me the opportunity to go away to camp, without it, I wouldn't be the Ms. Independent I am today.
3. I can take care of myself.
I don't need anyone to tell me when I need to wake up, do my homework, go to work, or clean up my room. I can do that myself. Growing up, I learned quickly that if my room was messy, it was going to stay that way until I cleaned it. No one was going to cater to me and clean the mess I had made. I am so thankful for that now, especially in college as I share a bathroom with three other girls.
4. I have a good work ethic.
Thankfully, this extends to my schoolwork as well as my employment. My school work was never done by my nana. Science fair project due the next day? You better believe I was the only one cutting out and gluing pieces of paper to that cardboard. English paper due and I don't want to continue writing it? Guess what-- I stayed up until that blank Word document was filled with little black Times New Roman characters. I was also encouraged to get a job, and my senior year, I was working week nights and full weekends, often pulling doubles. I quickly made my way up, and went from a redemption girl to a party captain to a cashier. My work ethic is so important as I juggle being a full-time student looking for a part-time job.
5. I am my own person.
And finally, I am so thankful I wasn't raised by a helicopter parent because I am my own person. I am not a 'daddy's girl' or a 'mommy's girl'. I am my own person. I have grown into a strong, independent, and intellectual woman. I do not need anyone to help me-- though it is always nice to have someone to fall back on. I know what I need to do to succeed and what it will take me to get there. I am prepared to fight my way to the top until I make it. My nana raised me to be strong and not give up easily when I want something. This will help me as I fight tooth and nail for internships and highly-coveted jobs in the future. If I had a helicopter parent, I wouldn't be who I am today.
So, thank you, nana, truly, from the bottom of my heart. I am so glad you are not a helicopter parent because I know you have raised me to succeed in this world without needing someone to help me. I can do all I put my mind to, and I have you to thank for that.
