The 5 Most Liberating Realizations In Life

The 5 Most Liberating Realizations In Life

Take a deep breath, and just keep going.
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We all have those days or even weeks where things don't seem to go our way. Although those times really do suck, you will get through it. Whether it's struggles in school, friendships, or relationships, sometimes we forget to take a second to breathe and think things through. While some situations can be very consuming, there are certain realizations that I have had to help me move forward.

1. When you decide to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you.

Nothing is more emotionally draining than trying time and time again to keep something going with someone who isn't willing to lift a finger for you. No matter if it is a friend or a significant other, it's not fair when you're the only one putting in the time and energy. While it sucks to have to let someone you care about go, sometimes it's for the best to stop waiting around. I've learned over the years that you cannot make someone care more than they do, so when in these situations, sometimes you just have to let go and do your own thing. They might even miss you when you're gone...

2. When you realize you are fully capable of succeeding if you put forth the work.

Stop waiting around for things to happen. No one is going to get that 4.0 for you, except you. Sometimes during stressful periods of life, it's easy to quit and feel sorry for yourself. We're all guilty of that. However, one of the most amazing feelings is deciding that you are totally capable of being great. Finding discipline at first can be tricky, but feeling like you're succeeding in either school or work, can be one of the most rewarding feelings that no one can take away.

3. When you accept a situation for what it is and just move on.

As Hannah Montanna once said, "Everybody has those days, everybody makes mistakes!" and that couldn't be more true. While it sounds cheesy, realizing that you do make mistakes and that you are human, is another liberating feeling. If someone isn't willing to forgive you or admit they were in the wrong, they aren't worth your time anymore. One of the hardest things in life is when you feel like you don't have any control over a situation. The only thing you can control though is your life and what you choose to do with it. Life's too short and the world has too many amazing people to spend too much time trying to fix something that doesn't want to be fixed.

4. When you realize it's okay to put yourself first sometimes.

Throughout my life, I've naturally tended to put others and their well-being before my own. This has honestly hurt me at times because I expect people to do the same, but some people aren't like that, and that's okay. While no one really wants to be around someone who is only thinking of themselves, it is important to know that it is okay to sometimes put your well-being at the top of your priority list.

5. When you realize that it’s okay, to not always be okay.

I'll emphasize this again; we are all human! And life isn't perfect. It's not supposed to be rainbows and butterflies all the time. No one likes being upset obviously, but taking a crappy time for what it is and just taking some time to be sad or upset or even angry, is okay. You're allowed to feel these things and admit you aren't okay. You learn to appreciate the sun after a storm, you know? Happiness wouldn't be a thing if it's all we ever felt.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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10 Quotes That Will Help You Realize Your Self-Worth

Sometimes you need a little pick me up and that's okay because I'm pretty sure it happens to everyone. When I need a pick me up, I tend to look over quotes that help with either giving me an ego boost or reminding me to keep working.

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These 10 quotes are from a notes page that I keep on my phone with a list of over 100 quotes. I keep quotes on my phone to give me reminders, advice, or even some motivation. I specifically chose these ten quotes to help anyone remind themselves to never give up and to know your self-worth, which is priceless.

1. "Hold yourself to a higher standard than anyone else expects of you. Never excuse yourself."

This quote reminds me to only focus on what I think about myself and to continue bettering myself. The part of the quote that states, "never excuse yourself" really illuminates how there is always room for improvement in every aspect of your life. Never allow yourself to fall behind and to continue growing.

2. "I am left with no choice, but to create an empire from these ruins within me."

Anyone I am depressed (or heartbroken...), this quote reminds me you can only come up from rock bottom.

3. "If you're happy in yourself, you radiate happiness and attract happiness."

Any time I'm feeling down, I like to read this quote because it helps me work to getter better. The quote pushes me to get better because everything is much better and warmer when you're happy. Emotions soak in more, laughs are genuine, and happy tears become a reality.

4. "You don't need to be better than anyone else, you just need to be better than you used to be." -Wayne W. Dyer

Dyer's quote forces me to continue improving myself. I know this is similar to the first quote, but it helps even more because it reminds me to never forget where I came from.

5. "Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens." -Louise L. Hay

When I am feeling down about myself, Hay's quote helps me get out of the funk because I will only continue to spiral if I only focus on the negative.

6. "I am the flower and the thorns. I don't need you to touch me in order to blossom." -Haley Hendrick

Hendrick's quote gives me the confidence to be a strong independent young woman. I do not need a pity party to feel better about myself. I can cope and continue growing because rain is the only way flowers bloom.

7. "Be nice to yourself. It's hard to be happy when someone is being mean to you all the time."

If you continue to criticize yourself and only focus on your "flaws," you will never be able to be happy. I know it is harsh but if you don't love yourself, you won't be able to ever fully love anyone. Being kind and allowing yourself to grow is the best self-care. Take a break from whatever you're busy with at the time if you need to. Take a breath and focus on the reasons you love yourself and what all you have accomplished.

8. "I wanna make my parents proud, my enemies jealous, and myself satisfies."

This quote points you in the direction of self-growth because it allows you to remember there are never excuses for yourself. Growing up is a part of life, so is adaptation and evolution. You have to go with the flow and keep up with the times.

9. "Your body is not a temple..."

"Your body is not a temple. Temples can be destroyed and desecrated. Your body is a forest, thick canopies of maple trees and sweet wildflowers sprouting in the underwood. You will grow back, over and over, no matter how badly you are devastated."

Do not ever let anything keep your down, break through the ceiling if you have to. Keep pushing and working for whatever dreams you have.

10. "You don't have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life..."

"You don't ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life. It doesn't matter whether someone is s relative, romantic interest, employer, childhood friend, or a new acquaintance — you don't have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small. It's one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignored your boundaries, and "continues" to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go." — Daniell Koepke

Sometimes, you had to leave behind people you thought would be in your life forever because they're holding you back. Sometimes they just always bring negativity and make you feel bad about yourself. Sometimes people make cool jokes and don't understand how it isn't funny. These people are toxic and it is okay to remove them from your life. Keep growing but always remember what could have happened if you stayed behind.

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