5 Things Female INTJs Are Tired Of Hearing

5 Things Female INTJs Are Tired Of Hearing

As told by a female INTJ.

The rare and elusive female INTJ. Depending on your attentiveness and surroundings, you may be more likely to spot a unicorn. For those unaware of this species, INTJ is one of the 16 personality types generated by the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. This particular result of the introspective personality test indicates a tendency towards introversion over extraversion, intuition over sensing, thinking over feeling and judging over perceiving. More information on the types and what they mean is available here. Taking the test is highly recommended, and with jokes like how many of each type it takes to change a lightbulb, it's quite entertaining.

A result of INTJ is rare for women. According to careerplanner.com, they represent less than 1 percent of the population. Often dubbed the mastermind or strategist, INTJs are a force to be reckoned with. Nevertheless, the rarity of the female INTJ can cause some classic misunderstandings.

1. "You're too quiet."

INTJs are extremely intelligent and approach their passions with gusto. However, if they aren't interested or don't have anything to contribute to the conversation, then they won't. What a concept! Indeed, they are masters of communicating clearly and efficiently. This means they won't sugarcoat it for you or beat around the bush. It's only logical. A woman is often expected to be bubbly, whereas "a man of few words" is respected. Well, meet the woman of few words. Nothing is wrong with her; she simply likes to make her words count.

2. "Shut up."

It can be pretty rare for INTJs to find someone who shares one of their passions. The things that interest them excite them more than other types may be able to understand. They think about these things extensively, a trait often glaringly apparent. Once you get them started, it can be hard to shut them up. It's like a switch. They will either bore you with silence or talk your ear off. Choose wisely, and prepare to have a few knowledge bombs thrown in your direction.

3. "You have the emotional capacity of a rock."

INTJs aren't the most emotionally intelligent. They usually make up for this with this with significant intuition and are actually one of the types most willing to work on a relationship. It takes time for them to identify and process their own emotions, a trait that does not at all fit into the expressive female stereotype. As a result, they often come off as cold, uncaring or unfeeling. They do have emotions, but they aren't usually driven by them. When they are, their emotions powerful and run deep. They are expressed differently, and that is OK.

4. "You haven't thought this through."

Wrong! INTJs examine all possibilities before coming to a decision. They are so efficient and skilled in this that other types often believe they have not thought things through. This is far from the truth.

5. "No need to be so harsh."

INTJs expect perfection of themselves and less of others. However, they are often hig achievers and can get frustrated by others' shortcomings. The mix of efficient communication and seeing the world through an almost completely logical lens can lead to some tough truths. They do not aim to hurt; they just don't see the point in being indirect. INTJs don't lead with care or sympathy. They take the best path to achieve a goal. It may not be the most "feminine" approach by some definitions, but it does not make a female INTJ any less of a woman.

Yes, an INTJ woman is a rare breed. However, this doesn't make her any less of a woman. She doesn't fit the old-fashioned definition of femininity, but why should she have to? More power to her for being who she is. She is not emotional. She is not sensitive. She is direct. She is independent. She is confident. Treat her like a person, and don't expect her to fit into a box. She likes to break the mold.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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Arab-American Heritage Month Is Not A Well Known Celebration And I'm Pissed About It

I'm an Arab-American and didn't even know this was a thing... That's sad.


The month of April is special for a lot of reasons but this one hits home for me. This is the perfect opportunity to celebrate the culture, history and amazing people who have helped bring something to this country. So many Arab-Americans have contributed a lot to society yet they don't get the recognition they deserve for it.

In today's society, the Arab community is always being looked down on and degraded. The lack of understanding from those around makes Arab-Americans feel like outsiders in a place they should be able to call home. The inaccurate images and stereotypes that inhabit the word "Arab" are sickening.

It's time to raise awareness. It's time to look beyond the media's portrayal. It's time to see a neighbor, a teacher, a doctor, a scientist, an artist, an athlete, a parent, a child, but most importantly, a human being, NOT a monster.

Arab-Americans encounter and fight racism every day. As a society, we should be better than that. We should want everyone in this country to feel wanted, needed and appreciated. Together, we should use this month as a time to shine light and celebrate the many Arab-Americans who have, and continue making this country great.

While you read this list of just a few famous Arab-Americans keep in mind how much they want this country to be amazing, just as much as anyone else does.

Dr. Michael DeBakey, invented the heart pump

Dr. Elias Corey, Nobel Prize winner for Chemistry in 1990 

Dr. Ahmed H. Zewail, Nobel Prize winner for Chemistry in 1999

Lucie Salhany, first woman to head a tv network 

Ralph Johns, an active participant in the civil rights movement and encouraged the famous Woolworth sit-in 

Ernest Hamwi, invented the ice cream cone

Pvt. Nathan Badeen, died fighting in the Revolutionary War

Leila Ahmed, the first women's studies professor at Harvard Divinity School 

We should recognize and celebrate these achievements. There are so many things you can learn when you step inside another culture instead of turning your back to it. This April, take time to indulge in the Arab-American heritage.

Instead of pushing away the things you don't understand, dive into diversity and expand your knowledge of the unknown. Together we can raise awareness. #IAmArabAmerican

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