We are a divided nation. We have been divided long before this election cycle and we would remain divided regardless of who won the presidency. However, families should not be divided, especially as the holiday season is around the corner and Thanksgiving just days away. Place cards at tables should not be left empty, fists should not be slammed on the table in anger and frustration, and doors should not remain closed but should instead usher in gratitude and hugs. Certainly, the election is a hot topic likely to accompany the turkey at this year's Thanksgiving celebration but many are dreading this holiday weekend and the discussions to follow. Friends are fearful of insults from their parents, criticism from cousins, and backlash from grandparents. Here are five conversations to have instead:
1. Play a game
This is a family tradition of ours. Each person sitting at the table asks a question, something along the lines of: "What is your favorite season?" "If you could have dinner with any person dead or alive, who would it be?" You will learn more about your family than you ever thought possible and have a bunch of laughs while doing so.
2. Set goals
In many cases, your family is a great support system. Hearing what everyone else is hoping to achieve int he next year can be motivational and inspirational and finally getting your own goals out in the open will feel great too.
3. Discuss Movies
Chat about the latest movies that you have seen and even some old favorites. For some really great moments, talk about what actors or actresses you would like to replace and with who. Somehow my Thanksgiving table always ends up on Musicals and bursting out into show tunes.
4. Brainstorm for the Next Family Vacation
Many of my most fondest memories revolve around vacationing with my grandparents and cousins: finding squirrels in cottage closets and playing "very serious" games of mini golf. Each person can suggest a place for the next vacation and every guest can share a favorite memory.
5. What are you grateful for?
Try asking everyone to state three things that they are grateful for. This question can keep the election arguments away and invites the grateful spirit to stay.
I hate to think of families avoiding the Thanksgiving table of their loved ones for fear of the notorious post-election argument. The Thanksgiving break and holiday should be anticipated and longed for, not dreaded. Instead of spending the holiday arguing and persuading, have conversations that will allow you to grow together and rejoice in the hope and happiness of the holiday season.
