Around last Christmas time, I read a book called "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F**k," by Mark Manson. In it, Manson recalls how he has grown up and learned what kind of things to care about. He says that the secret to success is focusing your attention where it matters, and doing your best to bring out the best in others. One part that really stuck out to me is when he talks about the fact that no problem is a "personal" one.
Throughout college, a typical student will have problems relating to dating, family, and friends that consume all their thoughts. Sometimes, a student will do whatever they can to hide their problems and act like their problems don't exist, plastering on a happy face. In reality, though, having stressful situations to figure out and meet head on helps you grow. But sometimes meeting challenges head on, by yourself, is scary. That's when realizing that no problem is truly personal comes into play.
If you have a problem, others have surely had it before. And realizing that someone, even someone you never in a million years thought you'd get along with, might have the same problem as you, could lead to a new friend or relationship.
I'm by no means an expert or amazing at opening up to people, as I'm naturally reserved, but learning to take the plunge and share my experiences just a little more often has helped me very much. If you need to get out of a rut, this piece of advice is how to do it.
